About 3 years ago, I began losing my way. Even as I was finally finding it. It was summer 2015, and my blog was exploding. Three million people would visit my website in just 3 days while I finished writing my 2nd book in a mountain cabin …
Throughout my 20s and 30s, I often stayed in relationships I was deeply divided about staying in. My mouth would make promises my bones knew I couldn’t keep. Which made life awful for any woman who ever tried to love me.
Don’t let the busy-ness of everyday life drown out the whisper of inspiration.
♦◊♦ Just over three years ago, in 2012, I was living with 5 people in a small home in Los Angeles that I would have been embarrassed to invite you into. I was 38 and sleeping on an air mattress in a tiny upstairs bedroom surrounded by Goodwill furniture and scratched up walls. I was
♦◊♦ I spent 5 years hurting a good woman by staying with her but never fully choosing her. I did want to be with this one. I really wanted to choose her. She was an exquisite woman, brilliant and funny and sexy and sensual. She could make my whole body laugh with her quick, dark
♦◊♦ Have you ever puzzled over who should pay for dinner on a first date? Back when I was living mostly in the land of 50/50 love, what author David Deida called Stage 2 Intimacy, I wanted my romantic dates to at least pretend they were willing to foot half the dinner bill. Especially on
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LuVsf_hE7gM Last week I discovered this funny new Super Bowl commercial in which Planet Earth unravels like a glitchy video game: gravity reverses, there’s a blizzard in Africa and a tsunami in Paris, a tree spontaneously combusts, priests loot an electronic store and dogs start walking people (don’t dogs do that now?). The big reveal
Recently, I asked you directly about your biggest challenges in intimate relationships. Hundreds of you brilliant souls responded. Today, in gratitude for your generosity, I want to offer you 3 things: 1 – The Top Results of that Survey 2 – Powerful insights that can help you around your top intimacy challenges. 3 – An exclusive
♦◊♦ “I love you.” (nope) “You look beautiful.” (nope) “Let’s go shopping!” (depends how you say it, but still, no) “How’s your mother?” (no, this will just make her suspicious of you) Those are all nice to say, and many women want to hear them from their partner; they like to feel cherished. But none
I’m your average great guy, with three sisters, two amazing mothers and great relationships with them all. I’m great friends with women, but I ain’t no “friend-zone” kinda guy, either. I’ve had my share of great romance. However, when I look back at intimate loves past, I see my backyard field of dreams filled with