Men, This Way https://bryanreeves.com/blog/ Relationship Insight Ninja Wed, 21 Aug 2019 09:00:48 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://bryanreeves.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/cropped-Bryan-Reeves-Logo-Icon-Image-32x32.jpg Men, This Way https://bryanreeves.com/blog/ 32 32 Manhood, Purpose, Masculinity, Intimacy … Love? Join Bryan Reeves, Air Force Captain turned renowned Life Coach, on the search for wise, powerful, heart-connected men who can show us the essentials for living a truly masterful life as Men. Bryan Reeves yes episodic Bryan Reeves bryan@bryanreeves.com bryan@bryanreeves.com (Bryan Reeves) Bryan Reeves Life Insights From Wise Men Men, This Way https://bryanreeves.com/wp-content/uploads/powerpress/Men_This_Way_Podcast_Cover_Image_-_FINAL.jpg https://bryanreeves.com/blog/ Yes TV-PG Los Angeles, CA Bi-Weekly (Pt 1) A More Beautiful World w/ Charles Eisenstein (033) https://bryanreeves.com/beautiful-world-charles-eisenstein-033/ Wed, 21 Aug 2019 09:00:48 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47419 https://bryanreeves.com/beautiful-world-charles-eisenstein-033/#respond https://bryanreeves.com/beautiful-world-charles-eisenstein-033/feed/ 0 You know those people you don’t like … do you really know what it’s like to be them? Do you see yourself as alone in the world, or part of a greater whole? Did you know the current political climate – which has you either upset or checked out – can be liberating for you? ... <a title="(Pt 1) A More Beautiful World w/ Charles Eisenstein (033)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/beautiful-world-charles-eisenstein-033/">Read more</a>

You know those people you don’t like … do you really know what it’s like to be them?

Do you see yourself as alone in the world, or part of a greater whole?

Did you know the current political climate – which has you either upset or checked out – can be liberating for you?


I was so excited for this interview with Charles Eisenstein.

After spending the last few days really diving into his work in preparation to talk with him, I woke up at 5am this morning my heart and mind just aflame with inspiration. 

I love what Charles is speaking into the world through his books, his articles, his live presentations. Apparently so does Oprah Winfrey, who recently released her own podcast interview with Charles. 

Charles’ core message – as I experience it – is the acknowledgment of what the great Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh calls our “interbeing” … the awareness and practice of our connectedness to all things, and to each other … what I love in particular about Charles’ work, is he brings that beautiful spiritual notion down to earth in ways us humans can actually work with in our everyday lives and relationships. Charles is a brilliant mind connected to a deeply inspired heart, all held inside the sturdy bones of a grounded and humble man. He graduated from Yale University with degrees in mathematics and philosophy, and is the author of 5 books, including The Ascent of Humanity and The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know is Possible. 

I decided during our conversation to make this part 1 of our exploration together – and he agreed – because there is so much in his deep ocean of wisdom I’m eager to explore, and even 60 minutes in I felt like I was still just doggy paddling on the surface. I truly believe this man offers some of the most crucial insights to assist humanity through the challenging transition we’re now clearly going through, and so I encourage you strongly to stay tuned all the way through to Charles’ 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way … 

Alright … 

Let’s dive …

SHOW NOTES

6:02 ~ Charles’ early experiences
12:55 ~ Interbeing, interconnectivity, and empathy
17:39 ~ An insightful approach to delay judging people
23:00 ~ The shift from patriarchal systems
27:22 ~ How “masculine” goals can leave us unfulfilled
32:16 ~ “What is like to be you?”
38:20 ~ The story we hold about somebody is an invitation for them to play out that story
40:29 ~ The universal idea of the adversary
45:57 ~ Three “wrong” responses to challenges in intimate relationships
48:51 ~ Hate is a bodyguard for grief
53:59 ~ Looking for what it’s like to be you
57:48 ~ “To create real change in the world we may need to sacrifice being right”
1:02:18 ~ What do I serve?

1:04:28 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE

1:04:53 ~ KEY INSIGHT: “If I were in the totality of anyone’s circumstances, I could very well be doing what they’re doing. I’m no better than any other person”
1:05:59 ~ KEY MENTOR TO LEARN FROM: Orland Bishop (Author, Youth Mentor)
1:06:49 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): Hayao and Gorō Miyazaki films (namely “Ronja, the Robber’s Daughter”)
1:08:30 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Taking his 14-year-old son on a speaking trip
1:09:45 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Taking a “news fast”

OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES

Find Charles @ www.CharlesEisenstein.org
And his videos @ www.CharlesEisenstein.org/video/

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You know those people you don’t like … do you really know what it’s like to be them? Do you see yourself as alone in the world, or part of a greater whole? Did you know the current political climate – which has you either upset or checked out – can be ... You know those people you don’t like … do you really know what it’s like to be them?
Do you see yourself as alone in the world, or part of a greater whole?
Did you know the current political climate – which has you either upset or checked out – can be liberating for you?

I was so excited for this interview with Charles Eisenstein.
After spending the last few days really diving into his work in preparation to talk with him, I woke up at 5am this morning my heart and mind just aflame with inspiration. 
I love what Charles is speaking into the world through his books, his articles, his live presentations. Apparently so does Oprah Winfrey, who recently released her own podcast interview with Charles. 
Charles’ core message – as I experience it – is the acknowledgment of what the great Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh calls our “interbeing” … the awareness and practice of our connectedness to all things, and to each other … what I love in particular about Charles’ work, is he brings that beautiful spiritual notion down to earth in ways us humans can actually work with in our everyday lives and relationships. Charles is a brilliant mind connected to a deeply inspired heart, all held inside the sturdy bones of a grounded and humble man. He graduated from Yale University with degrees in mathematics and philosophy, and is the author of 5 books, including The Ascent of Humanity and The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know is Possible. 
I decided during our conversation to make this part 1 of our exploration together – and he agreed – because there is so much in his deep ocean of wisdom I’m eager to explore, and even 60 minutes in I felt like I was still just doggy paddling on the surface. I truly believe this man offers some of the most crucial insights to assist humanity through the challenging transition we’re now clearly going through, and so I encourage you strongly to stay tuned all the way through to Charles’ 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way … 
Alright … 
Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
6:02 ~ Charles’ early experiences
12:55 ~ Interbeing, interconnectivity, and empathy
17:39 ~ An insightful approach to delay judging people
23:00 ~ The shift from patriarchal systems
27:22 ~ How “masculine” goals can leave us unfulfilled
32:16 ~ “What is like to be you?”
38:20 ~ The story we hold about somebody is an invitation for them to play out that story
40:29 ~ The universal idea of the adversary
45:57 ~ Three “wrong” responses to challenges in intimate relationships
48:51 ~ Hate is a bodyguard for grief
53:59 ~ Looking for what it’s like to be you
57:48 ~ “To create real change in the world we may need to sacrifice being right”
1:02:18 ~ What do I serve?
1:04:28 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
1:04:53 ~ KEY INSIGHT: “If I were in the totality of anyone’s circumstances, I could very well be doing what they’re doing. I’m no better than any other person”
1:05:59 ~ KEY MENTOR TO LEARN FROM: Orland Bishop (Author, Youth Mentor)
1:06:49 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): Hayao and Gorō Miyazaki films (namely “Ronja, the Robber’s Daughter”)
1:08:30 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Taking his 14-year-old son on a speaking trip
1:09:45 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Taking a “news fast”
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
Find Charles @ www.CharlesEisenstein.org
And his videos @ www.CharlesEisenstein.org/video/
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It Hurts To Live Your Purpose (It Hurts More NOT To!) (032) https://bryanreeves.com/hurts-to-live-your-purpose-032/ Thu, 08 Aug 2019 03:19:18 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47408 https://bryanreeves.com/hurts-to-live-your-purpose-032/#respond https://bryanreeves.com/hurts-to-live-your-purpose-032/feed/ 0 Are you struggling to figure out your purpose? Maybe you’re clear on your purpose, but it’s often a struggle to fully live it? Do you fear intimate relationship could get in the way of fulfilling on your purpose? A few days ago, a man wrote these words to me:  Hey Bryan  Recently became aware of ... <a title="It Hurts To Live Your Purpose (It Hurts More NOT To!) (032)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/hurts-to-live-your-purpose-032/">Read more</a>

Are you struggling to figure out your purpose?

Maybe you’re clear on your purpose, but it’s often a struggle to fully live it?

Do you fear intimate relationship could get in the way of fulfilling on your purpose?


A few days ago, a man wrote these words to me: 

Hey Bryan 

Recently became aware of you. Was reading some of your blog posts and I noticed a troubling trend. 

Like you The Way of the Superior Man changed my life and path through it. 

It seems to me you have lost sight of 1 of the fundamentals of a Superior Man- 

Purpose above/before woman/feminine. 

A couple of the posts I read were Silvy this, Silvy that, over and over. 

Having a great woman is the best thing in the world. 

Giving her too much of yourself will lose her. 

I wish you all the best. 

I encourage you to reflect on this.

I’ll share my response at the end of this episode.

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • Empowering questions to help you reflect on your purpose,
  • “4 Key Takeaways” to help you deepen and refine your practice of living your purpose, everyday. 
  • Simple practices you can start doing TODAY to help you live with powerful intention, moment by moment by moment. 
  • 2 key distinctions to navigating the tension between your purpose … and the needs of relationship.

Definitely stay tuned all the way to the end of this potent episode of Men, This Way …

Alright …

Let’s dive …

RESOURCES

David Deida’s Book: (Paperback) Way Of The Superior Man / (Audio Book) Way of the Superior Man

My Book: Tell The Truth, Let The Peace Fall Where It May

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Are you struggling to figure out your purpose? Maybe you’re clear on your purpose, but it’s often a struggle to fully live it? Do you fear intimate relationship could get in the way of fulfilling on your purpose? A few days ago, Are you struggling to figure out your purpose?
Maybe you’re clear on your purpose, but it’s often a struggle to fully live it?
Do you fear intimate relationship could get in the way of fulfilling on your purpose?

A few days ago, a man wrote these words to me: 
Hey Bryan 
Recently became aware of you. Was reading some of your blog posts and I noticed a troubling trend. 
Like you The Way of the Superior Man changed my life and path through it. 
It seems to me you have lost sight of 1 of the fundamentals of a Superior Man- 
Purpose above/before woman/feminine. 
A couple of the posts I read were Silvy this, Silvy that, over and over. 
Having a great woman is the best thing in the world. 
Giving her too much of yourself will lose her. 
I wish you all the best. 
I encourage you to reflect on this.
I’ll share my response at the end of this episode.
In this episode, you’ll learn

* Empowering questions to help you reflect on your purpose,
* “4 Key Takeaways” to help you deepen and refine your practice of living your purpose, everyday. 
* Simple practices you can start doing TODAY to help you live with powerful intention, moment by moment by moment. 
* 2 key distinctions to navigating the tension between your purpose … and the needs of relationship.

Definitely stay tuned all the way to the end of this potent episode of Men, This Way …
Alright …
Let’s dive …
RESOURCES
David Deida’s Book: (Paperback) Way Of The Superior Man / (Audio Book) Way of the Superior Man
My Book: “Tell The Truth, Let The Peace Fall Where It May“
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Bryan Reeves yes 1:12:46
How to Make Meditation (and Isolation) Actually Work For You w/ Shinzen Young (031) https://bryanreeves.com/meditation-isolation-shinzen-young-031/ Wed, 31 Jul 2019 19:58:59 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47396 https://bryanreeves.com/meditation-isolation-shinzen-young-031/#respond https://bryanreeves.com/meditation-isolation-shinzen-young-031/feed/ 0 Can you learn to be happy no matter your external conditions? How does meditation, or simple mindfulness, play a big role in that? Don’t see any benefit when you meditate? (try the technique in this episode) Shinzen Young is the author of the groundbreaking book, The Science of Enlightenment. This episode will appeal more to ... <a title="How to Make Meditation (and Isolation) Actually Work For You w/ Shinzen Young (031)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/meditation-isolation-shinzen-young-031/">Read more</a>

Can you learn to be happy no matter your external conditions?

How does meditation, or simple mindfulness, play a big role in that?

Don’t see any benefit when you meditate? (try the technique in this episode)


Shinzen Young is the author of the groundbreaking book, The Science of Enlightenment.

This episode will appeal more to you if you’re specifically interested in meditation and deep spiritual practice. 

Shinzen Young is first a scientist and researcher, committed to taking, as he says in his book, “the Mist out of Mysticism” … Initially interested in religious thought from a more academic perspective, once he started peering down deep into the well of particularly eastern spiritual traditions, well, seems to me he fell in, and tumbled like Alice down the rabbit hole.

In 1970, for his doctoral dissertation in Buddhist studies at the University of Wisconsin, he actually went to Mount Kōya, a remote mountain monastery in Japan where he trained and ordained as a monk in the Shingon tradition of Buddhism, becoming the first Westerner ever to complete the Shingon basic training. 

From there, his fascinating journey far beyond pure academic interest began.

Shinzen has trained extensively in each of three additional Buddhist traditions: Vajrayana, Zen, and Vipassana, and he has now practiced, taught, and researched meditation for nearly 50 years. 

Being predisposed to science and research, he’s brilliant at illuminating the abstract concepts of meditation with fundamental theories of math and physics. He’s collaborated with neuroscientists at Harvard Medical School, University of Massachusetts Medical School, Yale, Carnegie Mellon, and the University of Vermont, to study meditation’s effects on the brain and body, and in service of his search for technological ways to stimulate and enhance mindfulness in individuals … you know, how to get the benefits of 50 years of meditation practice, say, into 50 minutes! Be forewarned … no one’s figured it out yet.

I spent a lot of time preparing for Shinzen’s interview, studying his materials, reading his brilliant book, even studying with one of his meditation teachers, Steve James, who introduced me to Shinzen’s teachings. But when we began to speak, I immediately felt painfully ill-prepared. The man is brilliant. His wisdom, profound. You’ll see he schools me straightaway as I attempt to ask a relatable question that doesn’t quite land the way I hoped. 

This episode is more technical than many episodes, and I fear I jump around a bit as to make it difficult to follow at times – you can certainly email me at bryan@bryanreeves.com to let me know – but Shinzen takes time to break down a potent mindfulness meditation practice that uses the 6 components of the human experience – what we see, hear, feel, externally, and what we see hear feel, internally – 6 components of our everyday experience that we can focus on in meditation – or anytime we choose to – a technique that can not only make us happier in our lives by helping us make better decisions informed by deeper clarity, but can also ultimately yield an experience of enlightenment, one available to everyone who seeks it … including you. 

So bear with me as I help us find our way, and definitely stay tuned for Shinzen’s 1 Key Insight at the end of this episode of Men, This Way … 

Alright … 

Let’s dive …

SHOW NOTES

9:44 ~ Schools of Buddhism and relationships
15:33 ~ Isolation, loneliness, and happiness
24:18 ~ The dichotomy of the potential benefits and detrimental effects of isolation
30:01 ~ “Complete experience” as the centerpiece of happiness independent of conditions
30:48 ~ Three mindfulness skills: concentration power, sensory clarity, and equanimity
34:59 ~ The discovery of the capability to cultivate attentional skills
40:21 ~ External conditions for happiness
46:31 ~ Why people would violate good conduct
49:48 ~ Skillful action in the world
58:07 ~ Difficulties with seeing the benefits of meditation
59:34 ~ Helpful suggestions for those starting meditation
1:06:48 ~ Quick fixes
1:14:30 ~ What men need to know to do intimate relationships well
1:16:33 ~ The four pillars of practice

OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES

Find Shinzen @ www.Shinzen.org and www.UnifiedMindfulness.com

Shinzen’s book “The Science of Enlightenment”@ www.Shinzen.org/Resources

Shinzen’s Periodic Table of Happiness

Home Practice @ www.HomePracticeProgram.com

Life Practice @ www.LifePracticeProgram.com

Also, learn about retreats Bryan is involved with at www.BryanReeves.com/Norway

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Can you learn to be happy no matter your external conditions? How does meditation, or simple mindfulness, play a big role in that? Don’t see any benefit when you meditate? (try the technique in this episode) Shinzen Young is the author of the groundbre... Can you learn to be happy no matter your external conditions?
How does meditation, or simple mindfulness, play a big role in that?
Don’t see any benefit when you meditate? (try the technique in this episode)

Shinzen Young is the author of the groundbreaking book, The Science of Enlightenment.
This episode will appeal more to you if you’re specifically interested in meditation and deep spiritual practice. 
Shinzen Young is first a scientist and researcher, committed to taking, as he says in his book, “the Mist out of Mysticism” … Initially interested in religious thought from a more academic perspective, once he started peering down deep into the well of particularly eastern spiritual traditions, well, seems to me he fell in, and tumbled like Alice down the rabbit hole.
In 1970, for his doctoral dissertation in Buddhist studies at the University of Wisconsin, he actually went to Mount Kōya, a remote mountain monastery in Japan where he trained and ordained as a monk in the Shingon tradition of Buddhism, becoming the first Westerner ever to complete the Shingon basic training. 
From there, his fascinating journey far beyond pure academic interest began.
Shinzen has trained extensively in each of three additional Buddhist traditions: Vajrayana, Zen, and Vipassana, and he has now practiced, taught, and researched meditation for nearly 50 years. 
Being predisposed to science and research, he’s brilliant at illuminating the abstract concepts of meditation with fundamental theories of math and physics. He’s collaborated with neuroscientists at Harvard Medical School, University of Massachusetts Medical School, Yale, Carnegie Mellon, and the University of Vermont, to study meditation’s effects on the brain and body, and in service of his search for technological ways to stimulate and enhance mindfulness in individuals … you know, how to get the benefits of 50 years of meditation practice, say, into 50 minutes! Be forewarned … no one’s figured it out yet.
I spent a lot of time preparing for Shinzen’s interview, studying his materials, reading his brilliant book, even studying with one of his meditation teachers, Steve James, who introduced me to Shinzen’s teachings. But when we began to speak, I immediately felt painfully ill-prepared. The man is brilliant. His wisdom, profound. You’ll see he schools me straightaway as I attempt to ask a relatable question that doesn’t quite land the way I hoped. 
This episode is more technical than many episodes, and I fear I jump around a bit as to make it difficult to follow at times – you can certainly email me at bryan@bryanreeves.com to let me know – but Shinzen takes time to break down a potent mindfulness meditation practice that uses the 6 components of the human experience – what we see, hear, feel, externally, and what we see hear feel, internally – 6 components of our everyday experience that we can focus on in meditation – or anytime we choose to – a technique that can not only make us happier in our lives by helping us make better decisions informed by deeper clarity, but can also ultimately yield an experience of enlightenment, one available to everyone who seeks it … including you. 
So bear with me as I help us find our way, and definitely stay tuned for Shinzen’s 1 Key Insight at the end of this episode of Men, This Way … 
Alright … 
Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
9:44 ~ Schools of Buddhism and relationships
15:33 ~ Isolation, loneliness, and happiness
24:18 ~ The dichotomy of the potential benefits and detrimental effects of isolation
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Bryan Reeves yes 1:21:04
Why Men Can’t Be Friends With Women They’re Attracted To (And Some Can) (030) https://bryanreeves.com/can-men-be-friends-with-women-030/ Sat, 27 Jul 2019 02:00:24 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47386 https://bryanreeves.com/can-men-be-friends-with-women-030/#respond https://bryanreeves.com/can-men-be-friends-with-women-030/feed/ 0 Can a man be genuine friends with a woman he’s attracted to? Can you ignore, or transmute, the pull of sexual polarity when it would otherwise threaten your relationship … or simply your peace of mind? Can a relationship survive (even thrive?) when opposite sex friends are in the picture? In this episode, I explore ... <a title="Why Men Can’t Be Friends With Women They’re Attracted To (And Some Can) (030)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/can-men-be-friends-with-women-030/">Read more</a>

Can a man be genuine friends with a woman he’s attracted to?

Can you ignore, or transmute, the pull of sexual polarity when it would otherwise threaten your relationship … or simply your peace of mind?

Can a relationship survive (even thrive?) when opposite sex friends are in the picture?


In this episode, I explore a very popular blog I wrote, by the same name as this podcast, entitled, Why Men Can’t Be Friends with Women They’re Attracted To (And Some Can)

In this episode, I’ll explore “4 key aspects of a man’s maturity” that determine whether he can be friends with a woman – or another man, for that matter – that he might otherwise be attracted to.

I’ll also share two essential insights into how to make opposite sex friends work FOR your relationship, not against it.

Definitely stay tuned for these 4 Key Aspects, and those extra bonus insights, at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …

RESOURCES

Original Blog: Why Men Can’t Be Friends with Women They’re Attracted To (And Some Can)

Blog: Breathing Into “Untimely” Sexual Energy

Love, Sex, Relationship Magic” Audio Program (15% discount code in the episode)

Men’s Retreats (including Norway)

 

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Can a man be genuine friends with a woman he’s attracted to? Can you ignore, or transmute, the pull of sexual polarity when it would otherwise threaten your relationship … or simply your peace of mind? Can a relationship survive (even thrive? Can a man be genuine friends with a woman he’s attracted to?
Can you ignore, or transmute, the pull of sexual polarity when it would otherwise threaten your relationship … or simply your peace of mind?
Can a relationship survive (even thrive?) when opposite sex friends are in the picture?

In this episode, I explore a very popular blog I wrote, by the same name as this podcast, entitled, Why Men Can’t Be Friends with Women They’re Attracted To (And Some Can)
In this episode, I’ll explore “4 key aspects of a man’s maturity” that determine whether he can be friends with a woman – or another man, for that matter – that he might otherwise be attracted to.
I’ll also share two essential insights into how to make opposite sex friends work FOR your relationship, not against it.
Definitely stay tuned for these 4 Key Aspects, and those extra bonus insights, at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …
RESOURCES
Original Blog: Why Men Can’t Be Friends with Women They’re Attracted To (And Some Can)
Blog: Breathing Into “Untimely” Sexual Energy
“Love, Sex, Relationship Magic” Audio Program (15% discount code in the episode)
Men’s Retreats (including Norway)
 
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Bryan Reeves yes 35:44
How Avoiding Honesty (in Love) Ruins Pleasure & Connection w/ Ian Ferguson (029) https://bryanreeves.com/avoiding-honesty-ruins-pleasure-ian-ferguson-029/ Wed, 10 Jul 2019 12:05:21 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47373 https://bryanreeves.com/avoiding-honesty-ruins-pleasure-ian-ferguson-029/#respond https://bryanreeves.com/avoiding-honesty-ruins-pleasure-ian-ferguson-029/feed/ 0 Do you genuinely value open communication in relationship, particularly around sex and attractions? Or, like most people, are there some things you really don’t want to hear? Do you get why knowing the difference between the stories your brain tells you, and the sensations your body tells you, is essential for living (and loving) well? ... <a title="How Avoiding Honesty (in Love) Ruins Pleasure & Connection w/ Ian Ferguson (029)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/avoiding-honesty-ruins-pleasure-ian-ferguson-029/">Read more</a>

Do you genuinely value open communication in relationship, particularly around sex and attractions?

Or, like most people, are there some things you really don’t want to hear?

Do you get why knowing the difference between the stories your brain tells you, and the sensations your body tells you, is essential for living (and loving) well?


Ian Ferguson is the no-so-behind the scenes husband and partner to renowned somatic sexologist Miss Jaiya, who created (or perhaps discoverer) of the 5 Erotic Blueprints.

I first met Ian at a sexuality symposium in Los Angeles where both Jaiya and I were speaking on stage. I have no idea if Jaiya remembered what my presentation, but I’ll never forget hers.

When she was on stage, with Ian, I watched her lie down on a massage table, and then Ian proceeded to do something with his hands, holding and waving them above her body almost as if he held a Harry Potter wand. He didn’t physically touch her at all … and within a minute Jaiya’s body started undulating and moaning upwards towards his magic wand hands, clearly riding a strong wave of orgasmic bliss. And she wasn’t faking it … and I do realize I’m a man which means what the hell do I know whether a woman is really faking it or now … but anyway that’s not the point! 

The point is, both Silvy and I have become fascinated by Jaiya and Ian’s work with the 5 Erotic Blueprints. They’ve actually helped Silvy and I bridge a few differences in the ways we both approach sex, which has helped us avoid feelings of shame or rejection and instead just create more laughter and understanding, and deeper connection.

I wanted to bring Ian on to Men, This Way, because he’s a man who lived monogamously throughout his 20s and 30s, and now lives in an open relationship with Jaiya. They have a young son, and are doing beautiful work in the world together, serving to eliminate sexual shame and celebrate self-expression, all built on the foundation of healthy boundaries and explicit consent.

Although we don’t really go into the 5 Erotic Blueprints in this episode, we do talk about Ian’s evolution in intimacy, some of the challenges of an open relationship, and some of the basic skills required for having a satisfying sexual intimacy, whether you’re monogamous or polyamorous, it’s all the same, really.   

You can actually take their Erotic Blueprint Quiz @ www.eroticbreakthrough.com/menthisway

This episode is a little longer than most, because Ian walks us through a specific, but very simple, breath practice at the very end, and we do a short meditation with this practice that I think you’ll enjoy, and be challenged by.

So definitely stay tuned for Ian’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …

Alright …

Let’s dive …

SHOW NOTES

11:50 ~ Significant events in Ian’s early life
17:09 ~ Men’s fear of being able to pleasure their partners
23:22 ~ The power of presence in sexual encounters
26:39 ~ The benefits of real consent and respecting our partners’ boundaries
29:32 ~ Ian’s entrance into polyamorous relationships
36:41 ~ Advice for those interested in pursuing open relationships and polyamory
40:46 ~ Why the idea that “Things should just work” is bullshit
47:00 ~ What men really need to know to create a truly fulfilling, intimate relationship
50:24 ~ The dangers of alcohol in relationships and their formation
51:47 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today

56:27 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE

56:33 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Taking the stories you tell yourself and observe them, then start to tell the story you want to tell
57:42 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: Satyen Raja (Founder of Accelerated Evolution Academy)
59:11 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): Satyen Raja. Notably, the Men This Way Podcast (Episode 12) with Satyen Raja
1:00:10: ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Multiple guided experiences with 5-MeO-DMT (a psychedelic tryptamine)
1:03:43 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Breath of Pleasure (including a guide through the practice)

OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES

Find Ian & Miss Jaiya’s project “The Erotic Blueprints” @ www.EroticBreakthrough.com/MenThisWay

Also @ www.MissJaiya.com

Book mentioned by Ian: “Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality” by Cacilda Jethá and Christopher Ryan

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Do you genuinely value open communication in relationship, particularly around sex and attractions? Or, like most people, are there some things you really don’t want to hear? Do you get why knowing the difference between the stories your brain tells yo... Do you genuinely value open communication in relationship, particularly around sex and attractions?
Or, like most people, are there some things you really don’t want to hear?
Do you get why knowing the difference between the stories your brain tells you, and the sensations your body tells you, is essential for living (and loving) well?

Ian Ferguson is the no-so-behind the scenes husband and partner to renowned somatic sexologist Miss Jaiya, who created (or perhaps discoverer) of the 5 Erotic Blueprints.
I first met Ian at a sexuality symposium in Los Angeles where both Jaiya and I were speaking on stage. I have no idea if Jaiya remembered what my presentation, but I’ll never forget hers.
When she was on stage, with Ian, I watched her lie down on a massage table, and then Ian proceeded to do something with his hands, holding and waving them above her body almost as if he held a Harry Potter wand. He didn’t physically touch her at all … and within a minute Jaiya’s body started undulating and moaning upwards towards his magic wand hands, clearly riding a strong wave of orgasmic bliss. And she wasn’t faking it … and I do realize I’m a man which means what the hell do I know whether a woman is really faking it or now … but anyway that’s not the point! 
The point is, both Silvy and I have become fascinated by Jaiya and Ian’s work with the 5 Erotic Blueprints. They’ve actually helped Silvy and I bridge a few differences in the ways we both approach sex, which has helped us avoid feelings of shame or rejection and instead just create more laughter and understanding, and deeper connection.
I wanted to bring Ian on to Men, This Way, because he’s a man who lived monogamously throughout his 20s and 30s, and now lives in an open relationship with Jaiya. They have a young son, and are doing beautiful work in the world together, serving to eliminate sexual shame and celebrate self-expression, all built on the foundation of healthy boundaries and explicit consent.
Although we don’t really go into the 5 Erotic Blueprints in this episode, we do talk about Ian’s evolution in intimacy, some of the challenges of an open relationship, and some of the basic skills required for having a satisfying sexual intimacy, whether you’re monogamous or polyamorous, it’s all the same, really.   
You can actually take their Erotic Blueprint Quiz @ www.eroticbreakthrough.com/menthisway
This episode is a little longer than most, because Ian walks us through a specific, but very simple, breath practice at the very end, and we do a short meditation with this practice that I think you’ll enjoy, and be challenged by.
So definitely stay tuned for Ian’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …
Alright …
Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
11:50 ~ Significant events in Ian’s early life
17:09 ~ Men’s fear of being able to pleasure their partners
23:22 ~ The power of presence in sexual encounters
26:39 ~ The benefits of real consent and respecting our partners’ boundaries
29:32 ~ Ian’s entrance into polyamorous relationships
36:41 ~ Advice for those interested in pursuing open relationships and polyamory
40:46 ~ Why the idea that “Things should just work” is bullshit
47:00 ~ What men really need to know to create a truly fulfilling, intimate relationship
50:24 ~ The dangers of alcohol in relationships and their formation
51:47 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
56:27 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
56:33 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Taking the stories you tell yourself and observe them, then start to tell the story you want to tell
57:42 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: Satyen Raja (Founder of Accelerated Evolution Academy)
59:11 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie,]]>
Bryan Reeves yes 1:17:54
Is Monogamy (Really) Natural? w/ Robert Kandell (028) https://bryanreeves.com/monogamy-robert-kandell-028/ Sat, 06 Jul 2019 23:59:55 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47363 https://bryanreeves.com/monogamy-robert-kandell-028/#respond https://bryanreeves.com/monogamy-robert-kandell-028/feed/ 0 Are you still attracted to others when you’re in a relationship? Do you think non-monogamy might be easier, or more fulfilling, or just more … natural? Are you being honest with your partner – or yourself – about your deepest sexual desires? (and should you be?) This is an epic episode. Robert is a wise ... <a title="Is Monogamy (Really) Natural? w/ Robert Kandell (028)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/monogamy-robert-kandell-028/">Read more</a>

Are you still attracted to others when you’re in a relationship?

Do you think non-monogamy might be easier, or more fulfilling, or just more … natural?

Are you being honest with your partner – or yourself – about your deepest sexual desires? (and should you be?)


This is an epic episode.

Robert is a wise man … and a dear friend of mine. 

Robert is especially wise in the domain of intimacy and relationship, because he’s been through it all.

He’s given himself to monogamy, polyamory, swinging, sex clubs, 3-somes, 4-somes, straight, bi, the whole orgy lifestyle – whatever the hell that is … and perhaps most interestingly, he was the business brains behind the ascent of One Taste, a multi-million dollar international organization, surely the world’s largest, if not the world’s ONLY, organization, that espouses the female orgasm as a gateway to humanity’s conscious awakening … yes, you heard me right … the female orgasm is a gateway to humanity’s awakening.

We’ll talk more about that, and Robert might say it or see it differently; but that was my interpretation when I first discovered One Taste, in California, of course, and both Robert and I share some fascinating stories about our experiences with One Taste, and its core practice, called “Orgasmic Meditation” – which, by the way, is a practice I recommend all couples learn about. I do NOT endorse participating in the One Taste community – and I’ll share why in this podcast – but I do recommend the practice for couples who want to create more sensual connection and intimacy. 

Anyway, Robert has immersed himself for many years in the world of sexual exploration, and there he’s met every beast living in every human shadow: jealousy, rage, insecurity, self-doubt, shame … which is one of the things I love most about being around Robert: Because of his willingness to confront these demons, he’s become a man who’s presence exudes clarity, confidence, calm, and deep, genuine caring. You really feel that he’s not hiding anything from you, and also that he doesn’t need anything from you, not even validation, and yet you still get that he cares about you.

Robert just came out with a new book, appropriately titled, Unhidden: A Book For Men And Those Confused By Them … and in his lifetime of being a badass business leader and coach, he has taught over 10,000 students in 400 workshops, coaching sessions and lectures how to live an authentic, unHIDDEN life.

In this episode, Robert and I have a spirited conversation on the question of monogamy. Is it natural? We talk about jealousy, and how it can be your best friend. We also talk about the challenges inherent in EVERY form of relationship you could possibly explore … and SO MUCH MORE!

By the way, Robert has now chosen to be in a monogamous relationship … though probably not in the way you think. But I’ll let him explain.

This is a MUST listen episode for every man, and woman, who’s ever been challenged by monogamy, or just by sexuality … which is most everyone! … 

Definitely stay tuned all the way through till Robert’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way … 

Alright … 

Let’s dive …

SHOW NOTES

9:03 ~ Robert’s first truthful conversation
15:47 ~ The start of One Taste
24:52 ~ Jealousy can be your best friend
28:09 ~ Is monogamy natural?
34:55 ~ Modern society, marriage, divorce, and women’s rights
35:38 ~ What “You complete me” really means for men
40:07 ~ Hiding the truth about our sexuality from our partners
53:22 ~ The importance of creating a space for truth in relationships between people constantly changing

56:22 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE

56:27 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Speaking the truth first to yourself, and then deliberately with your intimate friends to reveal
who you are
56:51 ~ KEY MENTOR TO LEARN FROM: Terry Real (Author)
57:31 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): “The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book
About Relationships” by Neil Strauss (Book)
59:15 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Personal trainer
1:00:18 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Having intentional “Truth Moments” with your
partner

OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES

Find Robert @ www.RobertKandell.com

]]>
Are you still attracted to others when you’re in a relationship? Do you think non-monogamy might be easier, or more fulfilling, or just more … natural? Are you being honest with your partner – or yourself – about your deepest sexual desires? Are you still attracted to others when you’re in a relationship?
Do you think non-monogamy might be easier, or more fulfilling, or just more … natural?
Are you being honest with your partner – or yourself – about your deepest sexual desires? (and should you be?)

This is an epic episode.
Robert is a wise man … and a dear friend of mine. 
Robert is especially wise in the domain of intimacy and relationship, because he’s been through it all.
He’s given himself to monogamy, polyamory, swinging, sex clubs, 3-somes, 4-somes, straight, bi, the whole orgy lifestyle – whatever the hell that is … and perhaps most interestingly, he was the business brains behind the ascent of One Taste, a multi-million dollar international organization, surely the world’s largest, if not the world’s ONLY, organization, that espouses the female orgasm as a gateway to humanity’s conscious awakening … yes, you heard me right … the female orgasm is a gateway to humanity’s awakening.
We’ll talk more about that, and Robert might say it or see it differently; but that was my interpretation when I first discovered One Taste, in California, of course, and both Robert and I share some fascinating stories about our experiences with One Taste, and its core practice, called “Orgasmic Meditation” – which, by the way, is a practice I recommend all couples learn about. I do NOT endorse participating in the One Taste community – and I’ll share why in this podcast – but I do recommend the practice for couples who want to create more sensual connection and intimacy. 
Anyway, Robert has immersed himself for many years in the world of sexual exploration, and there he’s met every beast living in every human shadow: jealousy, rage, insecurity, self-doubt, shame … which is one of the things I love most about being around Robert: Because of his willingness to confront these demons, he’s become a man who’s presence exudes clarity, confidence, calm, and deep, genuine caring. You really feel that he’s not hiding anything from you, and also that he doesn’t need anything from you, not even validation, and yet you still get that he cares about you.
Robert just came out with a new book, appropriately titled, Unhidden: A Book For Men And Those Confused By Them … and in his lifetime of being a badass business leader and coach, he has taught over 10,000 students in 400 workshops, coaching sessions and lectures how to live an authentic, unHIDDEN life.
In this episode, Robert and I have a spirited conversation on the question of monogamy. Is it natural? We talk about jealousy, and how it can be your best friend. We also talk about the challenges inherent in EVERY form of relationship you could possibly explore … and SO MUCH MORE!
By the way, Robert has now chosen to be in a monogamous relationship … though probably not in the way you think. But I’ll let him explain.
This is a MUST listen episode for every man, and woman, who’s ever been challenged by monogamy, or just by sexuality … which is most everyone! … 
Definitely stay tuned all the way through till Robert’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way … 
Alright … 
Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
9:03 ~ Robert’s first truthful conversation
15:47 ~ The start of One Taste
24:52 ~ Jealousy can be your best friend
28:09 ~ Is monogamy natural?
34:55 ~ Modern society, marriage, divorce, and women’s rights
35:38 ~ What “You complete me” really means for men
40:07 ~ Hiding the truth about our sexuality from our partners
53:22 ~ The importance of creating a space for truth in relationships between people constantly changing
56:22 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
56:27 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Speaking the truth first to yourself,]]>
Bryan Reeves yes 1:05:01
Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her) (027) https://bryanreeves.com/choose-her-everyday-027/ Fri, 28 Jun 2019 07:01:18 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47354 https://bryanreeves.com/choose-her-everyday-027/#respond https://bryanreeves.com/choose-her-everyday-027/feed/ 0 Why is intimate relationship uniquely so challenging?  Do you still think relationship should just be easy, and flow effortlessly? What does it actually look like to choose (or reject) your intimate partner everyday? In this episode, I dive into my  blog, Choose Her Everyday (or Leave Her), the blog that back in 2015 changed everything ... <a title="Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her) (027)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/choose-her-everyday-027/">Read more</a>

Why is intimate relationship uniquely so challenging? 

Do you still think relationship should just be easy, and flow effortlessly?

What does it actually look like to choose (or reject) your intimate partner everyday?


In this episode, I dive into my  blog, Choose Her Everyday (or Leave Her), the blog that back in 2015 changed everything for me, and millions of people around the world. 

That blog has been read by 30 million plus people, and counting … in every country except North Korea, as far as I can tell … to this day, I still get messages from people who tell me that blog changed how they see intimate relationship. Relationships, families even, have been saved because of that article … relationships have also ended because of it … because either one partner finally realized they weren’t ever going to be truly chosen by their partner, or the other got deeply clear they had no intention of stepping up and actively choosing their partner … and so they discovered it was best to end the relationship altogether. 

In my work with couples – I’m both a Life Coach, and a Relationship Coach, and I work with individual men, and women, and I also work with couples, of all sexual orientations – and when I work with couples, specifically, I don’t go into the work with an agenda of trying to keep them together. I love it when a couple makes even small shifts in the way they show up, when they begin to learn the art of masculine and feminine intimacy, for example, and stop competing to be right over the facts, or details, and instead learn to connect first, no matter the disagreement over details, and suddenly their relationship takes on a more effortless flow to it they didn’t even imagine possible just a few days or weeks before. But I also don’t believe a couple should stay together if even one partner isn’t willing to really lean in and do the often uncomfortable work of self-confrontation it essentially ALWAYS requires to create a thriving relationship. 

My parents divorced when I was 4 … and as painful as it was … THANK GOD they did! In retrospect, I don’t believe that between them they had the capacity – or inclination – to really learn and grow by facing each their own unique limitations to loving, and their lack of skillful communication. Thank god they only subjected me to 4 years of relationship dysfunction and not 18 years!

I wrote Choose Her Everyday or Leave Her, 5 or 6 years after the most important relationship in my life, at least until then, ended. That relationship was emotionally intense, abusive, chaotic … a lot like how I remember my parents’ relationship in those first 4 years of my life. 

I actually write more about that heart-wrneching experience in my book, “Tell The Truth, Let The Peace Fall Where It May

 … which you can find on Amazon.

I didn’t know the effect it would have on people. The week it went viral in the summer of 2015 – which by the way, was about 3 months AFTER I actually wrote and published it – I felt like I owned Facebook. It was everywhere. It even played a fascinating role in bringing Lady Silvy to me, whom I met the same week it went viral. But that story for another time.

In this episode, I revisit this epic blog that still seems to sing a resonant chord in the heart of humanity.

Definitely stay tuned for my 3 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way … 

Alright … 

Let’s dive …

SHOW NOTES

“Conflict to Connection” 90-Day Couples Program

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Why is intimate relationship uniquely so challenging?  Do you still think relationship should just be easy, and flow effortlessly? What does it actually look like to choose (or reject) your intimate partner everyday? In this episode, Why is intimate relationship uniquely so challenging? 
Do you still think relationship should just be easy, and flow effortlessly?
What does it actually look like to choose (or reject) your intimate partner everyday?

In this episode, I dive into my  blog, Choose Her Everyday (or Leave Her), the blog that back in 2015 changed everything for me, and millions of people around the world. 
That blog has been read by 30 million plus people, and counting … in every country except North Korea, as far as I can tell … to this day, I still get messages from people who tell me that blog changed how they see intimate relationship. Relationships, families even, have been saved because of that article … relationships have also ended because of it … because either one partner finally realized they weren’t ever going to be truly chosen by their partner, or the other got deeply clear they had no intention of stepping up and actively choosing their partner … and so they discovered it was best to end the relationship altogether. 
In my work with couples – I’m both a Life Coach, and a Relationship Coach, and I work with individual men, and women, and I also work with couples, of all sexual orientations – and when I work with couples, specifically, I don’t go into the work with an agenda of trying to keep them together. I love it when a couple makes even small shifts in the way they show up, when they begin to learn the art of masculine and feminine intimacy, for example, and stop competing to be right over the facts, or details, and instead learn to connect first, no matter the disagreement over details, and suddenly their relationship takes on a more effortless flow to it they didn’t even imagine possible just a few days or weeks before. But I also don’t believe a couple should stay together if even one partner isn’t willing to really lean in and do the often uncomfortable work of self-confrontation it essentially ALWAYS requires to create a thriving relationship. 
My parents divorced when I was 4 … and as painful as it was … THANK GOD they did! In retrospect, I don’t believe that between them they had the capacity – or inclination – to really learn and grow by facing each their own unique limitations to loving, and their lack of skillful communication. Thank god they only subjected me to 4 years of relationship dysfunction and not 18 years!
I wrote Choose Her Everyday or Leave Her, 5 or 6 years after the most important relationship in my life, at least until then, ended. That relationship was emotionally intense, abusive, chaotic … a lot like how I remember my parents’ relationship in those first 4 years of my life. 
I actually write more about that heart-wrneching experience in my book, “Tell The Truth, Let The Peace Fall Where It May
 … which you can find on Amazon.
I didn’t know the effect it would have on people. The week it went viral in the summer of 2015 – which by the way, was about 3 months AFTER I actually wrote and published it – I felt like I owned Facebook. It was everywhere. It even played a fascinating role in bringing Lady Silvy to me, whom I met the same week it went viral. But that story for another time.
In this episode, I revisit this epic blog that still seems to sing a resonant chord in the heart of humanity.
Definitely stay tuned for my 3 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way … 
Alright … 
Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47316 https://bryanreeves.com/man-divided-causes-stress-026/#respond https://bryanreeves.com/man-divided-causes-stress-026/feed/ 0 Have you ever felt divided about being in a relationship? Does your partner seem to feel divided about … you, or your relationship? Would you choose to succeed at your mission, your career, your purpose in life … over succeeding in relationship? In this episode, I dive into one of my recent popular blogs, A ... <a title="A Man Divided Causes Stress in His Partner (026)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/man-divided-causes-stress-026/">Read more</a>

Have you ever felt divided about being in a relationship?

Does your partner seem to feel divided about … you, or your relationship?

Would you choose to succeed at your mission, your career, your purpose in life … over succeeding in relationship?


In this episode, I dive into one of my recent popular blogs, A Man Divided Causes Stress In His Partner for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life.

You’ll have more clarity about the essential importance of deeply committing to whatever you are actually choosing in your life, whether that’s your work in the world, or a relationship.

I aim to help you understand that you can always change your mind or make different choices tomorrow, or in 5 years, but if you are living today in the awkward “in-between” – resistant to fully making a choice one way or another, particularly in intimacy, but also in your work, is going to create tension, confusion, and ultimately suffering, for you and the ones affected by your choosing, and particularly your lack of choosing.

Definitely stay tuned for my 3 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …

Alright …

Let’s dive …

]]> Have you ever felt divided about being in a relationship? Does your partner seem to feel divided about … you, or your relationship? Would you choose to succeed at your mission, your career, your purpose in life … over succeeding in relationship? Have you ever felt divided about being in a relationship?
Does your partner seem to feel divided about … you, or your relationship?
Would you choose to succeed at your mission, your career, your purpose in life … over succeeding in relationship?

In this episode, I dive into one of my recent popular blogs, A Man Divided Causes Stress In His Partner for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life.
You’ll have more clarity about the essential importance of deeply committing to whatever you are actually choosing in your life, whether that’s your work in the world, or a relationship.
I aim to help you understand that you can always change your mind or make different choices tomorrow, or in 5 years, but if you are living today in the awkward “in-between” – resistant to fully making a choice one way or another, particularly in intimacy, but also in your work, is going to create tension, confusion, and ultimately suffering, for you and the ones affected by your choosing, and particularly your lack of choosing.
Definitely stay tuned for my 3 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …
Alright …
Let’s dive …
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Bryan Reeves yes 27:01
Bridging (Painful) Cultural Divides w/ Tarek Mounib #FreeTripToEgypt (025) https://bryanreeves.com/bridging-cultural-divides-tarek-mounib-egypt-026/ Fri, 14 Jun 2019 18:59:17 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47277 https://bryanreeves.com/bridging-cultural-divides-tarek-mounib-egypt-026/#respond https://bryanreeves.com/bridging-cultural-divides-tarek-mounib-egypt-026/feed/ 0 Are you concerned (frightened, pissed) about the state of the world politic today? Have you given up hope that we can all just get along? Have you been to Egypt, or thought about going … or wouldn’t now dare go now?! In this episode, my guest is Tarak Mounib, whose courageous new film, Free Trip ... <a title="Bridging (Painful) Cultural Divides w/ Tarek Mounib #FreeTripToEgypt (025)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/bridging-cultural-divides-tarek-mounib-egypt-026/">Read more</a>

Are you concerned (frightened, pissed) about the state of the world politic today?

Have you given up hope that we can all just get along?

Have you been to Egypt, or thought about going … or wouldn’t now dare go now?!


In this episode, my guest is Tarak Mounib, whose courageous new film, Free Trip To Egypt, has just come out and is playing in movie theaters across the country this month.

Before we dive in with Tarak, I want to tell you something about me you don’t know: I have an adopted Egyptian brother.

He lives in Nashville with my dad and step-mom. I met him 20 years ago, when I was fresh out of the military and traveling around the world desperately trying to find myself …. Well, one of the many places I found myself was in the heart of Cairo, where I lived with Wael’s family (his name is Wael) for 3 months. In the summer just before 9/11 … what i experienced changed my life forever.

I had never before experienced such a culture of hospitality and welcoming. Yes, there were things that bothered me about the experience in Egypt, that felt oppressive like the military, but more than that, I was left with an indelible imprint on my soul of the profound capacity Egyptians have to be kind, loyal friends and companions, to be concerned and present, and to be loving. When 9/11 happened a few months later – and I was 3 miles from the Pentagon when it was hit, attending a 9am talk in downtown Washington D.C. by president Bill Clinton’s Middle East Envoy, Ambassador Dennis Ross, about the state of peace talks in the Middle East – well I was devastated.

Yes because of the attacks themselves – and even more so because suddenly a hatred so nasty and violent began to emerge even from a few people close to me, towards the very Muslims I had fallen in love with, and who had fully embraced me as their own son, just months earlier.

So when my friend John Raatz, founder of the Global Alliance for Transformational Entertainment  (known as GATE) told me he was taking on marketing and promotion for a movie about bringing people from places in America where that same hatred and vitriol towards Muslims has been erupting these last few years TO Egypt … to live with Egyptian families, to essentially be swallowed up by the same love and welcoming I experienced 20 years ago … I was over the moon!

John allowed me to do a private screening in my home for some friends before it was released, and well … here we are today. By the time you hear this podcast, Tarak’s film will have been shown in over 500 theaters across North America.

This is my conversation with Tarak, a profound exploration into culture, the shared human experience, and the hope, and wisdom, and futility in learning how to bridge the sometimes excruciating differences that divide people everywhere, and how getting along doesn’t require … CAN’T require … MUST NOT require … that we all think the same.

Definitely stay tuned for Tarak’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …

Alright …

Let’s dive …

SHOW NOTES

6:22 ~ The launch and reception of Tarek’s film “Free Trip To Egypt”
8:46 ~ A significant early experience in Tarek’s life
12:24 ~ Relationship with father
13:04 ~ Relationship with Egypt
17:36 ~ Similarities between Egypt and the west
23:48 ~ Why Tarek made his film at this time
27:40 ~ What Egypt can teach the west
32:31 ~ “Free Trip To Egypt”
36:55 ~ Aspects of living under an authoritative government
47:34 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today

50:14 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE

50:37 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Trust hope
52:09 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: The Dalai Lama
53:04 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): Tarek’s film “Free Trip To Egypt”
53:31 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Giving a gift to someone
54:44 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Taking 10 minutes to lie on the couch, breath, and
feel your whole body
56:15 ~ Tarek’s Pledge to Listen campaign

OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES

Find Tarek’s film and his campaign “Pledge to Listen” @ www.FreeTripToEgypt.com

]]>
Are you concerned (frightened, pissed) about the state of the world politic today? Have you given up hope that we can all just get along? Have you been to Egypt, or thought about going … or wouldn’t now dare go now?! In this episode, Are you concerned (frightened, pissed) about the state of the world politic today?
Have you given up hope that we can all just get along?
Have you been to Egypt, or thought about going … or wouldn’t now dare go now?!

In this episode, my guest is Tarak Mounib, whose courageous new film, Free Trip To Egypt, has just come out and is playing in movie theaters across the country this month.
Before we dive in with Tarak, I want to tell you something about me you don’t know: I have an adopted Egyptian brother.
He lives in Nashville with my dad and step-mom. I met him 20 years ago, when I was fresh out of the military and traveling around the world desperately trying to find myself …. Well, one of the many places I found myself was in the heart of Cairo, where I lived with Wael’s family (his name is Wael) for 3 months. In the summer just before 9/11 … what i experienced changed my life forever.
I had never before experienced such a culture of hospitality and welcoming. Yes, there were things that bothered me about the experience in Egypt, that felt oppressive like the military, but more than that, I was left with an indelible imprint on my soul of the profound capacity Egyptians have to be kind, loyal friends and companions, to be concerned and present, and to be loving. When 9/11 happened a few months later – and I was 3 miles from the Pentagon when it was hit, attending a 9am talk in downtown Washington D.C. by president Bill Clinton’s Middle East Envoy, Ambassador Dennis Ross, about the state of peace talks in the Middle East – well I was devastated.
Yes because of the attacks themselves – and even more so because suddenly a hatred so nasty and violent began to emerge even from a few people close to me, towards the very Muslims I had fallen in love with, and who had fully embraced me as their own son, just months earlier.
So when my friend John Raatz, founder of the Global Alliance for Transformational Entertainment  (known as GATE) told me he was taking on marketing and promotion for a movie about bringing people from places in America where that same hatred and vitriol towards Muslims has been erupting these last few years TO Egypt … to live with Egyptian families, to essentially be swallowed up by the same love and welcoming I experienced 20 years ago … I was over the moon!
John allowed me to do a private screening in my home for some friends before it was released, and well … here we are today. By the time you hear this podcast, Tarak’s film will have been shown in over 500 theaters across North America.
This is my conversation with Tarak, a profound exploration into culture, the shared human experience, and the hope, and wisdom, and futility in learning how to bridge the sometimes excruciating differences that divide people everywhere, and how getting along doesn’t require … CAN’T require … MUST NOT require … that we all think the same.
Definitely stay tuned for Tarak’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …
Alright …
Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
6:22 ~ The launch and reception of Tarek’s film “Free Trip To Egypt”
8:46 ~ A significant early experience in Tarek’s life
12:24 ~ Relationship with father
13:04 ~ Relationship with Egypt
17:36 ~ Similarities between Egypt and the west
23:48 ~ Why Tarek made his film at this time
27:40 ~ What Egypt can teach the west
32:31 ~ “Free Trip To Egypt”
36:55 ~ Aspects of living under an authoritative government
47:34 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
50:14 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
50:37 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Trust hope
52:09 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: The Dalai Lama
53:04 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): Tarek’s film “Free Trip To Egypt”
53:31 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,]]>
Bryan Reeves yes 59:16
Reclaiming Your (Primal) Masculinity w/ Eivind Skjellum (024) https://bryanreeves.com/reclaiming-primal-masculinity-eivind-skjellum-024/ Wed, 05 Jun 2019 22:49:16 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47263 https://bryanreeves.com/reclaiming-primal-masculinity-eivind-skjellum-024/#respond https://bryanreeves.com/reclaiming-primal-masculinity-eivind-skjellum-024/feed/ 0 Do you feel disconnected from your father, grandfather(s) … from Life? Do you feel disconnected from your wild nature? Do you yearn for a deeper connection … to yourself? I really enjoyed this conversation with Eivind Figenschau Skjellum of Norway. His company, Reclaim Your Inner Throne, a rich expression of men’s work that, among other ... <a title="Reclaiming Your (Primal) Masculinity w/ Eivind Skjellum (024)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/reclaiming-primal-masculinity-eivind-skjellum-024/">Read more</a>

Do you feel disconnected from your father, grandfather(s) … from Life?
Do you feel disconnected from your wild nature?
Do you yearn for a deeper connection … to yourself?


I really enjoyed this conversation with Eivind Figenschau Skjellum of Norway.

His company, Reclaim Your Inner Throne, a rich expression of men’s work that, among other essential insights and practices, helps men reconnect … or even just connect for the first time for so many men, with the Mature Masculine archetypes – KING WARRIOR MAGICIAN LOVER … archetypes founded on Carl Jung’s work and outlined beautifully in the timeless classic of that same name – K W M L – by Robert Moore and Douglass Gilette. The theory goes, that these archetypes are embedded in the DNA of all men, but like a software code not yet given the command to begin running the program, many men in the modern world live perpetually stuck in predominantly adolescent psychological structures, those archetypes locked away in a latent state beyond our grasping, largely due to a lack of thoughtful male elders who can initiate us into manhood, and also an abundance of distractions that appeal to the adolescent self-concerned mind. Because of this, we men risk living deeply unfulfilled, while women risk everything that comes with living in a world with few truly mature men.

Reading that book many years actually changed my life – which I share a little bit about how it did that in this episode.

One of the things I think I love most about Eivind, actually … is he’s from Norway, the historic land of the Viking. I’m obsessed with Viking culture and mythology.

In fact, he’s hosting an upcoming small men’s retreat called “Kings of the North” … in the wilds of Norway this summer, and I’m going. I’m actually leading one of the tribal clans in the retreat, and so if you’d like to attend a men’s retreat in Norway, and be a member of my 5-man clan – everyone gets a Viking Helmet and Battle Axe – go to bryanreeves.com/norway for more information … bryanreeves.com/norway.

Definitely stay tuned for Eivind’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …

Alright …
Let’s dive …

SHOW NOTES

6:34 ~ Vikings and primal nature
11:03 ~ Retreats and the benefits of being alone in nature
17:58 ~ Ash initiation ritual
20:08 ~ Eivind’s experience with illness
28:15 ~ Warriors serving kings, and other archetypes
30:49 ~ The Oedipal child and the dark side of the mother archetype
47:02 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today

49:40 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE

49:53 ~ KEY INSIGHT: “Whatever qualities of being that you exile from your own inner kingdom, will show up in the outer kingdom as the faces of evil”
52:49 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: Robert L. Moore – Psychologist, and co-author alongside Douglas Gillette of “King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine”
54:04 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): Tom Bilyeu’s “Impact Theory” (Online Interview Series)
56:26 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): A Spanish acoustic guitar
58:34 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Cut off technology at the beginning and the end of each day

OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES

Find Eivind @ www.Inner-Throne.com
As well as www.InnerThroneAcademy.com
Learn more about the Kings of the North Retreat @ www.BryanReeves.com/Norway … use discount code “BRYANREEVES”

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Do you feel disconnected from your father, grandfather(s) … from Life? Do you feel disconnected from your wild nature? Do you yearn for a deeper connection … to yourself? I really enjoyed this conversation with Eivind Figenschau Skjellum of Norway. Do you feel disconnected from your father, grandfather(s) … from Life?
Do you feel disconnected from your wild nature?
Do you yearn for a deeper connection … to yourself?

I really enjoyed this conversation with Eivind Figenschau Skjellum of Norway.
His company, Reclaim Your Inner Throne, a rich expression of men’s work that, among other essential insights and practices, helps men reconnect … or even just connect for the first time for so many men, with the Mature Masculine archetypes – KING WARRIOR MAGICIAN LOVER … archetypes founded on Carl Jung’s work and outlined beautifully in the timeless classic of that same name – K W M L – by Robert Moore and Douglass Gilette. The theory goes, that these archetypes are embedded in the DNA of all men, but like a software code not yet given the command to begin running the program, many men in the modern world live perpetually stuck in predominantly adolescent psychological structures, those archetypes locked away in a latent state beyond our grasping, largely due to a lack of thoughtful male elders who can initiate us into manhood, and also an abundance of distractions that appeal to the adolescent self-concerned mind. Because of this, we men risk living deeply unfulfilled, while women risk everything that comes with living in a world with few truly mature men.
Reading that book many years actually changed my life – which I share a little bit about how it did that in this episode.
One of the things I think I love most about Eivind, actually … is he’s from Norway, the historic land of the Viking. I’m obsessed with Viking culture and mythology.
In fact, he’s hosting an upcoming small men’s retreat called “Kings of the North” … in the wilds of Norway this summer, and I’m going. I’m actually leading one of the tribal clans in the retreat, and so if you’d like to attend a men’s retreat in Norway, and be a member of my 5-man clan – everyone gets a Viking Helmet and Battle Axe – go to bryanreeves.com/norway for more information … bryanreeves.com/norway.
Definitely stay tuned for Eivind’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …
Alright …
Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
6:34 ~ Vikings and primal nature
11:03 ~ Retreats and the benefits of being alone in nature
17:58 ~ Ash initiation ritual
20:08 ~ Eivind’s experience with illness
28:15 ~ Warriors serving kings, and other archetypes
30:49 ~ The Oedipal child and the dark side of the mother archetype
47:02 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
49:40 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
49:53 ~ KEY INSIGHT: “Whatever qualities of being that you exile from your own inner kingdom, will show up in the outer kingdom as the faces of evil”
52:49 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: Robert L. Moore – Psychologist, and co-author alongside Douglas Gillette of “King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine”
54:04 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): Tom Bilyeu’s “Impact Theory” (Online Interview Series)
56:26 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): A Spanish acoustic guitar
58:34 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Cut off technology at the beginning and the end of each day
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
Find Eivind @ www.Inner-Throne.com
As well as www.InnerThroneAcademy.com
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Bryan Reeves yes 1:03:19
Why Men Use Sex (Porn) to Avoid Pain w/ Mark Groves (023) https://bryanreeves.com/why-men-sex-avoid-pain-mark-groves-023/ Wed, 29 May 2019 17:57:09 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47243 Are you leaking sexual energy all over the place, at the store, gym, work, online? Could you be using sex or porn to avoid shame, or avoid intimacy, or live up to some outdated model of a man? Could you be using orgasm to self-soothe because you rarely received emotional soothing as a child? Mark Groves ... <a title="Why Men Use Sex (Porn) to Avoid Pain w/ Mark Groves (023)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/why-men-sex-avoid-pain-mark-groves-023/">Read more</a> Are you leaking sexual energy all over the place, at the store, gym, work, online? Could you be using sex or porn to avoid shame, or avoid intimacy, or live up to some outdated model of a man? Could you be using orgasm to self-soothe because you rarely... Are you leaking sexual energy all over the place, at the store, gym, work, online?
Could you be using sex or porn to avoid shame, or avoid intimacy, or live up to some outdated model of a man?
Could you be using orgasm to self-soothe because you rarely received emotional soothing as a child?

Mark Groves is the founder of the popular and inspiring instagram page, Create The Love.
This is a little different than most episodes of Men, This Way, in that Mark is a repeat guest and we’re drilling down into a specific topic – essentially, how men use sex to avoid pain and what to do about it.
It’s a subject both Mark and I have a LOT of personal, painful experience in. We both used women, used sex, used porn, used orgasm to avoid a lot of underlying issues that just perpetuated disconnect and suffering in both ourselves and in our partners, even despite all the pleasure and good feeling that sex and orgasm and intimacy absolutely offer, too.
Since we both have also been on profoundly healing journeys around all this, awakening to and practicing what it takes to create healthy relationships, not just with another person, but with ourselves, and with our own full, rich sexual drives and desires, too, we decided to record an episode on this for you.
It’s filled with the life-changing insights and practices we both discovered on our respective journeys, including my experience doing a 30-day sex, dating, flirting, hunting, and hoping diet a few years ago, which profoundly shifted my relationship to sex, and intimacy, and really paved the way for the exquisite relationship I’m in today.
Definitely listen to the end of this episode of “Men, This Way,” where we give you our best practices for learning how to use sex, not as a crutch to avoid pain, but rather as potent fuel for creating more vitality and deep connection in your life.
Alright …
Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
5:58 ~ Mark Groves’ experiences with sex and emotional pain
12:08 ~ Seeking sex for emotional comfort
14:54 ~ Sex as validation
25:36 ~ Porn and its effects on men today
34:40 ~ Managing our sexual energy, and what draws from it
47:28 ~ Performance and validation
52:09 ~ The danger of making orgasm the point of sex
56:39 ~ Shame and sexuality
1:03:31 ~ Going on a sex diet
1:09:57 ~ Facing our pain, rather than avoiding it
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
Find Mark @ www.MarkGroves.tv
The Mark Groves Podcast
@CreateTheLove on Instagram
Also … Do your own “Sex, Dating, Flirting, Hunting & Hoping Diet” @ www.BryanReeves.com/DatingDiet
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Bryan Reeves yes 1:15:52
Comparison is the Thief of Joy w/ Quddus Phillippe (022) https://bryanreeves.com/comparison-thief-of-joy-quddus-022/ Wed, 22 May 2019 20:03:11 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47213 Are you still pursuing success, recognition, or just more likes on your posts ‘cause you think it’ll make you happy? Do you compare your success to others … and come up short? Do you hide your vulnerability and authenticity – or overuse it? – to sell yourself (your brand)? “IF OPRAH AND RYAN SEACREST HAD ... <a title="Comparison is the Thief of Joy w/ Quddus Phillippe (022)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/comparison-thief-of-joy-quddus-022/">Read more</a> Are you still pursuing success, recognition, or just more likes on your posts ‘cause you think it’ll make you happy? Do you compare your success to others … and come up short? Do you hide your vulnerability and authenticity – or overuse it? Are you still pursuing success, recognition, or just more likes on your posts ‘cause you think it’ll make you happy?
Do you compare your success to others … and come up short?
Do you hide your vulnerability and authenticity – or overuse it? – to sell yourself (your brand)?

“IF OPRAH AND RYAN SEACREST HAD A LOVE CHILD, THE KID WOULD END UP BEING LIKE QUDDUS.”
That’s what comedian Chris Rock said about my guest, Quddus Phillippe.
Quddus first burst onto the world platform as host of MTV’s biggest show, Total Request Live from 2001 to 2006. He’s since interviewed and connected with and worked with the biggest stars and celebrities on the planet: Will Smith, Beyoncé, Jay-Z, Ben Affleck, Denzel Washington, Usher Britney Spears, Justin Timberlake and pretty much anyone else you might think of.
But that’s not why I invited him on Men, This Way. I invited him on, because since fate craftily brought our paths together – not once, but twice, in completely serendipitous moments – I’ve come to know Quddus as a deeply inspired and inspiring man in his own right, and as a friend.
He’s also a fascinating study in energy. Because he is one of the most visibly luminous and energetic people I’ve ever met! I first met him at the END of a 4-day transformational workshop where I had been partnered up as a workshop buddy with a recent ex-girlfriend of his, this gorgeous Romanian actress/model I would naturally have an ill-fated crush on for the ensuing few months after that workshop … when Quddus came on the last evening – all friends and family were invited to attend the last evening of this particular workshop – I only remember his bright smile and outrageous charisma and a massive energy that just lit up the room such that I felt like that tiny little blue dot we call Pluto suddenly placed in proximity to our exploding Sun!
But I didn’t get to know him that night. That happened a few years later, when I overheard him deftly navigating an uncomfortable phone conversation in the lobby at the posh and exclusive SoHo house in Hollywood, where I was teaching a relationship workshop.
Quddus attended my workshop that day, and soon after he invited me to attend the first weekend of a new workshop he was creating with his brilliant and talented in her own right wife, Carmina, a workshop called Camera Ready, in which they teach participants who have an important message they want to get into the world, how to really BE AUTHENTIC on video to help them connect with audiences to really make a meaningful, lasting impact.
“Media training from the inside out,” they call it. I can’t imagine more important work for anyone who uses media (including social media) for their work.
One last thing, Quddus and I recorded an earlier interview which quickly turned into more of a coaching session as he was going through a tough moment. We decided not to share that, but we do refer to it here, and I tell you that so you’re not confused.
Definitely stay tuned for Quddus’ 5 key takeaways at the end of this episode of Men, This Way.
Alright …
Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
7:31 ~ Quddus’ proximity to fame
13:19 ~ Quddus’ recent experience of India
14:40 ~ Hollywood and happiness
19:08 ~ Comparison, success, and joy
23:22 ~ Camera ready
27:12 ~ Being vulnerable versus using vulnerability
29:41 ~ Content for the bottom line versus the world
34:47 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
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Bryan Reeves yes 46:05
Are You Living True Path … or False Path? w/ Jeff Brown (021) https://bryanreeves.com/true-path-false-path-jeff-brown-021/ Wed, 15 May 2019 18:40:27 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47201 Are you living just to survive … or to fulfill your soul’s purpose? What’s the cost of not living your soul’s purpose? How can you even know if you’re living your soul’s path? How do you navigate the need to pay the bills (or show up for your loved ones) … AND the drive to ... <a title="Are You Living True Path … or False Path? w/ Jeff Brown (021)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/true-path-false-path-jeff-brown-021/">Read more</a> Are you living just to survive … or to fulfill your soul’s purpose? What’s the cost of not living your soul’s purpose? How can you even know if you’re living your soul’s path? How do you navigate the need to pay the bills (or show up for your loved one... Are you living just to survive … or to fulfill your soul’s purpose?
What’s the cost of not living your soul’s purpose?
How can you even know if you’re living your soul’s path?
How do you navigate the need to pay the bills (or show up for your loved ones) … AND the drive to live your soul’s calling today?

I was so excited for this conversation with Jeff Brown.
My lady has been a long time fan of his work – she often shares his wisdom on her Instagram page. I didn’t realize it until I started doing more research on Jeff, but I actually saw a documentary he produced called Karmageddon, years ago … a deeply insightful documentary about his fascinating (and disturbing) experience hosting in his home an essentially narcissistic boundary-violating musical guru who had a particular affinity for teenage women. This was well before the #METOO movement, and I wonder how that so-called guru-teacher is being received these days.
Anyway, what I so love about Jeff’s work and his writing, which I first witnessed in him in his documentary, is he brings firmly grounded perspective to the often lofty and disembodied heights of modern spirituality … where so many modern spiritual-teachers even coaches are using spiritual ideas and concepts, such as non-identification with form, and detachment from suffering, as grounds for actually abusing people and causing people to dishonor their own critical human boundaries, Jeff seizes on that insanity to bring spirituality back to earth, into the body, so that spiritual practice serves to deepen, and enrich, our human experience, not merely bypass it.
Jeff is the author of 6 books, including his most recent release, “Grounded Spirituality” … the book I decided to read to really prepare for this conversation was “Soulshaping: A Journey of Self-Creation” … which is an autobiographical account of his journey to awakening to his soul’s calling … and of course all the forces arrayed against him – both the inner forces like self-doubt and survival thinking – and also the outer forces our world makes real, like the very real need to make money and the persistent reality that one’s soul calling is often at odds with the modern world’s monetary system. In other words, despite all the Hallmark spirituality out there and the countless social media influencers who caption their luxury resort photos with trite assurances that if you just leap, you’ll grow wings … the truth is that even in today’s world of seemingly endless possibilities, following your soul’s calling often WON’T be financially rewarding … at least not for a very uncomfortable amount of time!
And I LOVE that Jeff leans straight into such widely perpetuated inspirational cliches that sing in sometimes painful dissonance with everyday reality.
Jeff’s book quickly became one of my all-time favorites – even just today I gave it to a client going through a massive life transition.
And Jeff the man is now one of my favorite men. Although we’ve just met, based on what I’ve witnessed through his work, and now through our conversation that you’re about to hear, I already know I deeply trust this man, in his integrity to just be real with me.
Definitely stay tuned for Jeff’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …
Alright …
Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
6:16 ~ Jeff’s latest book “Grounded Spirituality”
10:10 ~ False path and true path
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Bryan Reeves yes 1:00:54
The Courage It Takes to Live Your Truth w/ Kute Blackson (020) https://bryanreeves.com/courage-live-your-truth-kute-blackson-020/ Wed, 08 May 2019 22:39:27 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47160 Are you (still) afraid of the consequences of fully living your truth? Are you (still) living in your father’s shadow? Are you aware your partner can’t trust you when you don’t own your truth (even if your truth is inconvenient to them)? Kute Blackson is a lightning rod for truth and inspiration. Kute grew up ... <a title="The Courage It Takes to Live Your Truth w/ Kute Blackson (020)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/courage-live-your-truth-kute-blackson-020/">Read more</a> Are you (still) afraid of the consequences of fully living your truth? Are you (still) living in your father’s shadow? Are you aware your partner can’t trust you when you don’t own your truth (even if your truth is inconvenient to them)? Are you (still) afraid of the consequences of fully living your truth?
Are you (still) living in your father’s shadow?
Are you aware your partner can’t trust you when you don’t own your truth (even if your truth is inconvenient to them)?

Kute Blackson is a lightning rod for truth and inspiration.
Kute grew up the son of an African Ghanian preacher whose religious empire encompassed over 300 churches across Ghana, and he shares in this episode the impact of that experience on him as a Man, and particularly what happened when he finally denied his father’s demand for him to take over that empire.
I first met Kute about 8 years ago at a Yoga Festival in Santa Monica, the beach paradise of Los Angeles, and had the great pleasure to get to know this inspired man over the next few years. In the most interesting settings … He would show up in a gorgeous black lamborghini from nowhere at a little dinner party at a mutual friend’s misty mountain home, or invite me to a private party at his modern-style home in Silver Lake, in east Los Angeles, where I’d arrive by my lonesome only to be immediately embraced by a diverse group of 50-ish people I’d never met before dancing blissfully in his spacious living room to uplifting pop-tunes. I remember twice he hosted these massive club events, which he called “LoveStock” … right in the heart of shallow, disconnected Hollywood, they were these utterly uplifting all day parties filled with bands and performance artists and massage therapists givnig out free massages all day and inspired food vendors selling nourishing food … and Kute would jump up on stage at times and lead a thousand attendees in these raucous musical crescendoes of joy as we danced our hearts open … I know, sounds very California …
But Kute is full of surprises …
For he’s also the author of the national bestselling book You.Are.The.One. and has been featured on Larry King Now, Fox and Friends, Dr. Drew … Inc magazine calls him ‘The Mindfulness Guru Billionaires Go To For Advice’.
Kute is not just my friend and a man I admire, he is a charismatic visionary and transformational teacher offering a fresh, bold look at spiritual awareness for the modern world.
Kute is truly an electric presence, and I’m excited for this episode today.
Definitely stay tuned for Kute’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end – he absolutely SLAYS the Key Insight Takeaway … that one alone can change your everyday life – so stick around for that at the end of this episode of Men, This Way.
Alright …
Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
6:52 ~ Traveling, service, achievements, and surrender
12:26 ~ A significant event in Kute’s early life that played a fundamental role in shaping him
22:44 ~ Being true to yourself
25:12 ~ Speaking truth in relationships
32:56 ~ What women often get wrong about men
36:40 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
45:55 ~ “KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
46:42 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Embrace your death. Realize nobody owes you anything
52:24 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Regular vitamin IV treatments
53:50 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Moment-to-moment surrender
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
Find Kute @ www.KuteBlackson.com
InstaGram: @kuteblackson
Twitter: @kuteblackson
Facebook: www.facebook.com/KuteBlacksonLoveNow
As well as his Boundless Bliss event @ www.BoundlessBlissBali.com
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Bryan Reeves yes 1:02:46
Why My Girlfriend Was Always Angry With Me (019) https://bryanreeves.com/why-girlfriend-always-angry-019/ Wed, 01 May 2019 20:43:25 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47137 Have you ever had an intimate partner be routinely upset (with you), and you (mostly) had no clue why? How do your triggers from previous relationships show up in a new relationship, too? How can your childhood experience – even if you had great parents – still negatively affect your adult relationships? This episode of ... <a title="Why My Girlfriend Was Always Angry With Me (019)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/why-girlfriend-always-angry-019/">Read more</a> Have you ever had an intimate partner be routinely upset (with you), and you (mostly) had no clue why? How do your triggers from previous relationships show up in a new relationship, too? How can your childhood experience – even if you had great parent... Have you ever had an intimate partner be routinely upset (with you), and you (mostly) had no clue why?
How do your triggers from previous relationships show up in a new relationship, too?
How can your childhood experience – even if you had great parents – still negatively affect your adult relationships?

This episode of Men, This Way is a rebroadcast of one of my favorite ever interviews, which I recently did on another podcast … the Mark Groves podcast, hosted by my old friend, Mark Groves of the popular page, CreateTheLove on Instagram … and we dive into an essential topic.
I’ve gotten so much inspired feedback on this interview from both men and women … one woman even wrote to tell me this episode was so deeply comforting and healing for her that she’s listened to it 2-3x each day for a week, even falling asleep to it at night!
Plus … I love Mark Groves. He’s just a good dude, and he’s funny, and he held a great space for this conversation to unfold. His podcast, The Mark Groves Podcast, is super cool, too, and you should check it out on your favorite podcast app.
Mark’s Highlights of this Episode
Bryan Reeves is our guest this week and I am so excited to introduce you to a man who has truly lived a life of adventure and exploration. Bryan and I discuss his journey, from hyper-masculine army careerist, to wandering the Earth, and later to being a relationship and life coach.
Bryan talks us through the journey that broke his heart, opened his heart and totally renewed his joy for life.
Bryan and Mark go DEEP on all things masculinity this week.

* Why did Bryan’s girlfriends always end up frustrated and angry with him?
* Why do men follow Instagram models and damage their relationships with online behaviour?
* How can childhood emotional neglect – even the most subtle forms – play out in our adult lives?
* And what about our triggers, how can triggers from previous relationships or previous lives continue to impact our current partners.

Mark and Bryan discuss the challenges that every couple is bound to face.
Episode highlights (times not exact):
6:00 – The journey from army career to relationship coach.
9:30 – Finding the subject that ‘lit’ me up
10:30 – Why are the women I am in relationship with always angry at me?
15:00 – Instagram and the online world affecting relationships.
22:00 – Childhood emotional neglect – how can the most subtle forms affect our adult life?
28:00 – What triggers us in our parents, what does this reflect in us?
49:00 – Therapy, coaches and relationships, the value of working with someone from outside of our relationship.
51:00 – Triggers from past, childhood and their influence in current situations.
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Bryan Reeves yes 1:00:26
How to Stop Feeling Burdened By Life (018) https://bryanreeves.com/how-to-stop-feeling-burdened-by-life-018/ Thu, 25 Apr 2019 00:48:05 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47113 Do you ever (often) feel trapped, or burdened by life – your work, relationship, kids, parents, your bank account, your body, or just your circumstances, in general? Do you often experience resistance to the life you’re right now living? (or just what’s happening at the moment … like you just want it to go away!) ... <a title="How to Stop Feeling Burdened By Life (018)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/how-to-stop-feeling-burdened-by-life-018/">Read more</a> Do you ever (often) feel trapped, or burdened by life – your work, relationship, kids, parents, your bank account, your body, or just your circumstances, in general? Do you often experience resistance to the life you’re right now living? Do you ever (often) feel trapped, or burdened by life – your work, relationship, kids, parents, your bank account, your body, or just your circumstances, in general?
Do you often experience resistance to the life you’re right now living? (or just what’s happening at the moment … like you just want it to go away!)
Do you avoid feelings of frustration, sadness, anger, loneliness, despair?

Key Takeaways

We are ALWAYS going to feel trapped and burdened by something!
Avoiding the feelings never works. Especially when it comes to intimacy … AND to enjoying our lives.
Everything has come to teach us a lesson (“nothing happens TO us only FOR us.”)

PRACTICE: Emotion / Anger Yoga
RESOURCES
Michael Singer’s Book, The Surrender Experiment
 
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Bryan Reeves yes 44:07
Apologizing For Our Masculinity is Not What Makes Women (Or Anyone) Feel Safe w/ Mark Grainger (017) https://bryanreeves.com/apologizing-masculinity-not-feel-safe-mark-grainger-017/ Wed, 17 Apr 2019 18:27:20 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47099 Are you a man disconnected from your power? How can you be your full, wildly masculine self without apology (and without hurting anyone)? Are you committed to going all in on your dreams … or are you half-assing it? Mark Grainger is actually one of my coaches (yes, I have multiple!). A few years ago, ... <a title="Apologizing For Our Masculinity is Not What Makes Women (Or Anyone) Feel Safe w/ Mark Grainger (017)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/apologizing-masculinity-not-feel-safe-mark-grainger-017/">Read more</a> Are you a man disconnected from your power? How can you be your full, wildly masculine self without apology (and without hurting anyone)? Are you committed to going all in on your dreams … or are you half-assing it? Are you a man disconnected from your power?
How can you be your full, wildly masculine self without apology (and without hurting anyone)?
Are you committed to going all in on your dreams … or are you half-assing it?

Mark Grainger is actually one of my coaches (yes, I have multiple!).
A few years ago, I went to an event Mark and his wife, Shannon, were hosting in the San Francisco Bay area to teach entrepreneurs how to speak powerfully on stage in ways that actually create more income.
About 30 minutes into this 3-day event, Mark told all us men to stand up and grab our balls. Which we did, with a certain giddy discomfort I would say. Mark then led us through a pledge – I don’t remember the exact details – but essentially a pledge to fully own our desires, to not apologize for being men, and to ALSO be chivalrous and attuned to the women in the room. I loved it. The women loved it, too, except for one, who didn’t love it at all, which we talk about in this episode.
That weekend, I decided to become a VIP coaching client of Mark and Shannon’s, and I paid them $20,000 to start coaching me in my business. In many ways thanks to their influence, I feel like I now actually have a business, whereas before all I had were ways to make money.
Mark’s background is in marketing and sales. A genius branding expert, he’s executed over 450 branding and promotional campaigns as the advisor to Porsche, Harley Davidson, AFLAC,  Marriott, and more.

Today, he’s helping heart-centered entrepreneurs who are committed to making a meaningful difference in the world create bigger impacts with their message.
I invited Mark onto the podcast to learn more about his journey as a man, what challenges he’s faced on his entrepreneurial journey, and in his relationship with Shannon, with whom he’s built a multi-million-dollar business.
Our conversation covered a wide range of essential topics, from the challenges many men face being raised by well-meaning moms who are angry at men, to where are we men supposed to put our power in today’s world?
Definitely stay tuned all the way through to his 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way
Alright …
Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
6:42 ~ Significant event in Mark’s early life that played a fundamental role in shaping him
13:44 ~ How our wounds get in the way of communicating effectively
16:12 ~ Working with your partner
20:27 ~ “Can the person who loves me do the talking”
23:21 ~ You’re not angry for the reasons you think you are
25:55 ~ “Men stand up and grab your balls”
37:49 ~ Mark’s journey as an entrepreneur
40:32 ~ Acting despite being terrified
43:21 ~ Disempowering thoughts and beliefs
47:23 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
51:26 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
51:43 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Do the work
53:48 ~ KEY MENTOR: Bill Gould & Marianne Williamson
56:18 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): “Stealing Fire: How Silicon Valley, the Navy SEALs, and Maverick Scientists Are Revolutionizing the Way We Live and Work” by Jamie Wheal and Steven Kotler (Book)
58:07 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Miss Jaiya’s Erotic Blueprints
1:00:06 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Breath of Fire (Kundalini yoga practice)
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
Find Mark @ www.MyBigImpact.com
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How Men Can Overcome Resistance to Getting Support (and Why We Must!) w/ Connor Beaton (016) https://bryanreeves.com/how-men-can-overcome-resistance-to-getting-support-and-why-we-must-with-connor-beaton/ Wed, 10 Apr 2019 08:29:11 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47086 Why do men often seem to resist support (therapy/coaching/asking for directions)? Why is getting support essential for a great life and great relationships? What can help a man overcome his resistance to getting support? In this episode, my guest Connor Beaton and I dive into this conversation about men and support … why we need ... <a title="How Men Can Overcome Resistance to Getting Support (and Why We Must!) w/ Connor Beaton (016)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/how-men-can-overcome-resistance-to-getting-support-and-why-we-must-with-connor-beaton/">Read more</a> Why do men often seem to resist support (therapy/coaching/asking for directions)? Why is getting support essential for a great life and great relationships? What can help a man overcome his resistance to getting support? In this episode, Why do men often seem to resist support (therapy/coaching/asking for directions)?
Why is getting support essential for a great life and great relationships?
What can help a man overcome his resistance to getting support?

In this episode, my guest Connor Beaton and I dive into this conversation about men and support … why we need it, why we resist, and what can get us over that resistance to taking action.
Connor is is the founder of Mantalks, an international organization dedicated to helping the lives of men. Connor is also my first repeat guest on “Men, This Way” and in this special focus episode, though we drill down into one specific topic, we cover a lot of ground.
If you are in a relationship I strongly recommend listening to this episode with your partner, because it has the potential to bridge painful gaps between you.
If you’re not in a relationship, this is the perfect time to listen to this, because waiting until things are really shitty before gaining the clarity that you’re actually NOT supposed to figure out how to do life and love well, all by yourself … is no way to go through life and do love!
In fact, doing it all by yourself is the best way to end up alone! Even if you’re surrounded by people … This is an essential episode that I trust will serve you deeply, today and beyond.
If you want to share feedback, or tell me what this conversation inspired in you, you can now email me directly at bryan at bryanreeves dot com … I’d love to hear your thoughts …
Alright …
let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
5:48 ~ Why getting support matters, and why men need to get it
13:56 ~ Success and loneliness
21:04 ~ The shadow masculine and being alone
24:09 ~ Experience of hardship as a pre-requisite for belief
31:18 ~ The masculine drive towards freedom through structure and order
33:58 ~ Overcoming the resistance to seeking support
36:57 ~ How to approach getting a man to get support
40:38 ~ The importance of respect in relationships
44:42 ~ Feedback versus criticism
49:16 ~ Masculinity’s orientation towards growth
55:29 ~ Disposability and its effect on men’s self-esteem
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
Find Connor @ www.ManTalks.com
And @ManTalks (Instagram)
As well as www.ConnorBeaton.com
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Why You Suck at Intimacy (and How To Do It Better) w/ Zat Baraka (015) https://bryanreeves.com/better-intimacy-zat-baraka-015/ Wed, 03 Apr 2019 19:32:36 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47054 Do you struggle to be genuinely vulnerable? Did you know intimacy with self is required for true intimacy with others? What’s the connection between self-awareness and life (love) mastery? Zat Baraka is a dear friend of mine. I first met him about 9 years ago in Los Angeles before he was a renowned men’s coach. ... <a title="Why You Suck at Intimacy (and How To Do It Better) w/ Zat Baraka (015)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/better-intimacy-zat-baraka-015/">Read more</a> Do you struggle to be genuinely vulnerable? Did you know intimacy with self is required for true intimacy with others? What’s the connection between self-awareness and life (love) mastery? Zat Baraka is a dear friend of mine. Do you struggle to be genuinely vulnerable?
Did you know intimacy with self is required for true intimacy with others?
What’s the connection between self-awareness and life (love) mastery?

Zat Baraka is a dear friend of mine.
I first met him about 9 years ago in Los Angeles before he was a renowned men’s coach. It’s been fascinating to see behind the scenes of his journey from being a man already engaged in a decades-long Buddhist spiritual practice, to a renowned teacher and coach helping men, in particular, get out of our heads and live more fully connected to our own bodies, our emotions, so that we may live more connected to other men, to our friends and families, to our partners … to our lives.
In fact, that’s what I most admire and appreciate about Zat, and our friendship, is that no matter what’s coming up between us – and we’ve had a few pretty intense moments of disagreement where I’ll be so bold as to say less wise men would have either killed each other or simply never spoken again – but no matter what it is, we’re always able to own our own emotions, our own stories, or we often say, our own shit, before trying to resolve the details of the conflict … and that mutual capacity has allowed our friendship, our respect and love for each other to consistently deepen.
Zat models this practice beautifully, which in my experience, is essential for ANY relationship – intimate or otherwise – to truly thrive.
In this episode, Zat and I explore what it really means to know yourself, in tangible, practical ways that actually make life – and love – better in most every way.
Definitely stay tuned Zat’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …
Alright … Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
5:06 ~ The reason for being honest about how we are feeling
9:40 ~ Wisdom from parenting
14:03 ~ A significant early experience that played a fundamental role in shaping Zat as a man
17:45 ~ How early experiences shaped Zat’s challenges
22:06 ~ Why taking radical responsibility or ownership matters
26:22 ~ The best part about working with men
36:54 ~ The most challenging aspect of working with men
40:05 ~ The biggest challenge for men in intimate relationships
42:39 ~ The biggest challenge facing men today
45:46 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
45:50 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Embrace your shadow
47:32 ~ KEY MENTOR: Pema Khandro Rinpoche. Tibetan Buddhist teacher, scholar and humanitarian. David Deida. Groundbreaking work in relationships
48:49 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): “To Be A Man: A Guide to True Masculine Power” by Robert Augustus Masters (Book)
49:23 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Going on retreat with a teacher
51:04 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Breathing practice, especially Zat’s Tantric Breathwork Meditation: Available at www.ZatBaraka.com/Mens-Toolbox – use complimentary code “bryan”
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
Find Zat @ www.ZatBaraka.com
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Your Loyalty To Truth Can Hurt You w/ Jesse Elder (014) https://bryanreeves.com/loyalty-truth-hurt-jesse-elder-014/ Wed, 27 Mar 2019 16:50:08 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47040 Do you get angry over small things? Can you instantly change your thoughts to be more empowered? Does loyalty to some idealogy or “truth” get in the way of what’s actually useful for your life? Jesse Elder is a fascinating man. His inspired, and improvised, mind-vitamin wisdom videos have been viewed by over 60 million ... <a title="Your Loyalty To Truth Can Hurt You w/ Jesse Elder (014)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/loyalty-truth-hurt-jesse-elder-014/">Read more</a> Do you get angry over small things? Can you instantly change your thoughts to be more empowered? Does loyalty to some idealogy or “truth” get in the way of what’s actually useful for your life? Jesse Elder is a fascinating man. His inspired, Do you get angry over small things?
Can you instantly change your thoughts to be more empowered?
Does loyalty to some idealogy or “truth” get in the way of what’s actually useful for your life?

Jesse Elder is a fascinating man. His inspired, and improvised, mind-vitamin wisdom videos have been viewed by over 60 million people across the social media world.
Jesse’s background is in martial arts where he honed much of his embodied wisdom through decades of training and teaching and fighting in actual hand-to-hand combat, in both official martial arts competitions but also in underground fight-club like experiences where men fought for the win with no protective gear, no weight classes, and no rules, save I’m guessing for no death grip moves on each other. In this conversation, in fact, Jesse tells a powerful story about how getting his head smashed into the pavement at a party after hitting on someone else’s girl early in his martial arts career offered him a powerful lesson in the difference between truthfulness … and usefulness. 
Jesse, also known as the “Time Piercer” for his elastic perspectives of time, exudes the calm presence of a master teacher, and he is a master teacher. After building a multi-million dollar martial arts school franchise, he sold it to a business partner and launched himself full-time into sharing his wisdom through coaching, teaching, speaking, and his mind-vitamin videos.
I believe you’re gonna be deeply served by your time with Jesse Elder and I today, for we talk about the power (and pitfalls) of mindset, simple road maps to living freedom NOW, what it means to not merely face reality but actually create reality, and more.
Definitely stay tuned for Jesse’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …
Alright … Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
5:22 ~ Getting angry
8:03 ~ A significant event in Jesse’s early life
13:06 ~ Disempowering thoughts or beliefs in our lives
16:51 ~ Homeschooling and empowering a child
21:36 ~ How to change repetitive thought patterns
26:53 ~ A transcendent experience at 135mph
31:03 ~ What’s true versus what’s useful
36:19 ~ Realizing one is an elder
40:21 ~ The biggest challenge facing men today
42:55 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
43:02 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Question authority
43:52 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: Jesse’s father & Mike Kemski
44:55 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): Interstellar (Movie)
45:19 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Facebook advertising as a means of scaling sending his message, and booking a first-class, one-way ticket to somewhere I’ve never been.
46:19 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Meditation
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
Find Jesse @ www.JesseElder.com
Jesse’s Mind Vitamin Videos
On Instagram @JesseElderLive
Jesse Elder on Facebook
Jesse’s Prime Light Meditation @ www.JesseElder.com/products/ (note: this is currently a $700 offering. Should Jesse make this available free exclusively to “Men, This Way” listeners – we’re currently waiting to hear back from him on this – we’ll put that new link here. Keep checking back.)
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Whatever You Accomplish, It Will Never Be Enough w/ John Raatz (Global Alliance for Transformational Entertainment) (013) https://bryanreeves.com/whatever-you-accomplish-john-raatz-013/ Wed, 20 Mar 2019 00:57:44 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=47005 What is your relationship to fear? Is there a way to overcome fear to help you make better decisions? How do you know what to say yes to, or no to, in a WORLD full of distractions and demands? John Raatz is one of the most fascinating people I’ve ever met. We first connected in ... <a title="Whatever You Accomplish, It Will Never Be Enough w/ John Raatz (Global Alliance for Transformational Entertainment) (013)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/whatever-you-accomplish-john-raatz-013/">Read more</a> What is your relationship to fear? Is there a way to overcome fear to help you make better decisions? How do you know what to say yes to, or no to, in a WORLD full of distractions and demands? John Raatz is one of the most fascinating people I’ve ever ... What is your relationship to fear?
Is there a way to overcome fear to help you make better decisions?
How do you know what to say yes to, or no to, in a WORLD full of distractions and demands?

John Raatz is one of the most fascinating people I’ve ever met.
We first connected in 2010, through his organization, The Global Alliance for Transformational Entertainment, (also known as GATE).
I was immediately enrolled by John’s massive vision to ignite the spirit of transformational story-telling in mainstream Hollywood. You know, bring back to story-telling what it’s been for thousands of years – not a way to make money, but a way to diffuse wisdom throughout the community, so that we may live well.
Alongside legions of others who were likewise enraptured by John’s vision and passion, I helped John produce these marathon GATE events attended by a diverse world of celebrities, artists, hollywood execs, renowned spiritual teachers, and thought leaders. Those events were famous – or perhaps infamous – for running into the wee hours of the morning, the stage was like a clown car overrun by John’s rolodex of visionary artists, celebrities, entertainers, and storytellers. People like Eckhart Tolle, Jim Carrey, Melissa Etheridge, Marianne Williamson, Annie Lennox and so many others … they were all there, in the audience, and on stage, talking beautiful possibilities for humanity … Truly, those days working with John, and GATE, are among my favorite memories of my years in Los Angeles.
Seriously, John is an extraordinary man … he has had his tireless creative hands on just about every project in the transformational entertainment universe, from the mind-bending movie “Mindwalk” which blew my young mind in 1990, to “What the Bleep do We Know” which blew my slightly older mind – and millions of other minds – in 2004, to Eckhart Tolle’s “Power of Now,” which John helped make an international best-seller … and which always blows my ageless mind in the present moment … If you were to scroll through John’s CV, you would surely discover that you too have been inspired at some point in your life by something John was involved with.
Today, among still countless endeavors, John is the advisor to actor Jim Carrey.
I’m genuinely a big fan of John as a man. In addition to kind and humble, he is a fascinating study in the potential of the human spirit to dream up possibilities AND then take action to make them reality.
Alright … Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
9:51 ~ A significant early experience in John’s life
12:16 ~ How early exposure to spiritual literature infiltrated John’s work
15:22 ~ John’s relationship with fear
21:48 ~ How John’s relationship with his father shaped his life
27:42 ~ Disappointment and failure within John’s spiritual practice
31:36 ~ Evolution of love in intimate relationships
32:59 ~ The most important insight around creating a truly fulfilling intimate relationship
33:57 ~ The difference between listening and hearing
39:16 ~ How life is made richer through friendships with men
44:51 ~ The biggest challenge facing men today
48:57 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
49:37 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Understanding that the world is as we are
50:57 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: Eckhart Tolle
52:13 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast):
“ If You Want to Write: A Book about Art, Independence and Spirit” by Brenda Ueland (Book)
“The Gift” by Lewis Hyde (Book)
53:47 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Spending money on his wife,
Yoko
55:33 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening):
Meditation
The true practice of gratitude
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
Search online for “John Raatz” to find John Raatz! His website www.JohnRaatz.com is not yet ready.]]>
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Why You Need Mentors w/ Satyen Raja (012) https://bryanreeves.com/you-need-mentors-satyen-raja-012/ Wed, 13 Mar 2019 05:36:31 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=46994 Why are teachers/mentors ESSENTIAL for a man to live well? Why must a great leader first know how to be a wise follower? And is the secret to a great relationship … separate bedrooms? In this episode, my guest, Satyen Raja, and I mine these questions and more for useful insights that can make a ... <a title="Why You Need Mentors w/ Satyen Raja (012)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/you-need-mentors-satyen-raja-012/">Read more</a> Why are teachers/mentors ESSENTIAL for a man to live well? Why must a great leader first know how to be a wise follower? And is the secret to a great relationship … separate bedrooms? In this episode, my guest, Satyen Raja, Why are teachers/mentors ESSENTIAL for a man to live well?
Why must a great leader first know how to be a wise follower?
And is the secret to a great relationship … separate bedrooms?

In this episode, my guest, Satyen Raja, and I mine these questions and more for useful insights that can make a difference in your life.
Satyen co-founded, along with his wife Suzanne, the transformational training academy Warrior Sage … what a cool name. Satyen’s work is a living synthesis of eastern wisdom and western practicality, combining the power of the warrior and the wisdom of the sage to lead leaders worldwide into their highest self-knowledge, self-expression and impact.
I actually met Satyen in 2018 at the taping of a talk show on which we were both featured guests, The Dr. Nandi Show, for an episode on Healthy Masculinity. My lady, Silvy, and I, were immediately taken with Satyen’s presence, from the moment we met him in the hotel lobby where we were waiting for someone from the show to pick us up for the taping. Satyen exudes warmth and charisma and caring with a generous spirit that’s infectious. You just feel good in his presence.
I later learned that Satyen is also a long-time student of the author-teacher who changed my life, David Deida. In fact, one thing I love about this interview, is Satyen really demonstrates the value of learning from mentors and teachers in what you’re wanting to succeed at, whether it’s a martial art or business or intimate relationship with another. Satyen shares a particularly striking story in this episode about a profound, transcendent experience he had as a young man, that would have never happened for him, if not for a wise mentor who instructed him to get up at 4am every morning for a time.
This interview was a bit shorter than usual, given Satyen’s tight schedule this day, but we dive into really interesting topics, including surprisingly – didn’t see this coming – but THE BEST, THE MOST WISE insight to the question of whether we should build that damn border wall with Mexico that I’ve ever heard anyone ever say … I think you’re gonna really love his answer, no matter your politics on the issue … and even if you’re listening to this 100 years after this interview. Truly, his answer is timeless wisdom.
We also talk about a surprising practice to maintain a vibrant sexual polarity in a long-term relationship. Satyen’s been with his wife over 30 years, and they’ve been through it all …
And definitely stay tuned for Satyen’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way … Alright … Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
10:09 ~ Satyen’s approach to relaxing and chilling out
12:52 ~ Satyen’s approach to discipline and laziness
14:37 ~ An early transcendent experience
17:38 ~ When to lead, and when to follow
21:58 ~ The power of listening in masculine leadership
24:14 ~ Separate bedrooms in a relationship
28:12 ~ The most important thing that men need to know to create a really thriving relationship
30:30 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
40:01 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
40:29 ~ KEY INSIGHT: What must I do today to live, love, and die completely without regret?
42:12 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: David Deida & Stuart Wilde, particularly his book “Infinite Self: 33 Steps to Reclaiming Your Inner Power”
42:59 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): “Reality Transurfing” by Vadim Zeland
(Book)
44:24 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Vacation to Hawaii
45:00 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): The question: “What must I do today to live, love,
and die completely without regret?”
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
Find Satyen @ www.WarriorSage.com
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Living at the Edge of Your Truth w/ Mark Groves (011) https://bryanreeves.com/living-at-the-edge-of-your-truth-with-mark-groves-011/ Wed, 06 Mar 2019 19:06:11 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=46965 Are you doing work every day of your life that you’re not aligned with? Are you having the uncomfortable conversations you need to be having with the people you love? Do you know how to love without losing yourself? I first met Mark Groves about 7 or 8 years ago in Los Angeles through a ... <a title="Living at the Edge of Your Truth w/ Mark Groves (011)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/living-at-the-edge-of-your-truth-with-mark-groves-011/">Read more</a> Are you doing work every day of your life that you’re not aligned with? Are you having the uncomfortable conversations you need to be having with the people you love? Do you know how to love without losing yourself? Are you doing work every day of your life that you’re not aligned with?
Are you having the uncomfortable conversations you need to be having with the people you love?
Do you know how to love without losing yourself?

I first met Mark Groves about 7 or 8 years ago in Los Angeles through a group of friends doing inspired entrepreneurial work in the world.
At the time, Mark was going through a massive transition in his life, having ended both a marriage engagement to his long-time girlfriend and also his 14-year career as a well-paid pharmaceutical sales rep. He was experiencing a deeper awakening that forced him to acknowledge his choices were no longer in alignment with what he was discovering about himself, and his courageous choice to stop living out of integrity with his deeper truths – like all courageous choices – quickly flung him off the cliff into a holy shit freefall of total uncertainty and deep identity crisis.
If you’ve ever experienced that – as I did when I left the military at 26 with no idea where to go from there – it’s all “what the hell am I supposed to do now?” and “who am I if I’m not my work and my relationship?” … which can be terrifying to the mind that craves certainty.
But once Mark found some solid footing on his new path, which did take some years of searching and deep inquiry and the courageous willingness to STAY in the unknown, his work, his presence exploded onto the social media scene, particularly on Instagram, where he now has over a quarter million engaged readers on his popular page, CreateTheLove.
Mark left a lasting impression on me the first time I met him. He was humble, sincere, and just easy to be around. I also found myself laughing a lot in his presence. I loved reconnecting with Mark through this episode, and I again laughed a lot, because even as we dive deep, he brings his sense of humor with him. Mark shares a lot about his journey through leaving work he didn’t love, leaving a relationship that didn’t fit, and the joys and challenges he’s experienced since in creating a beautiful relationship with his partner, Kylie Macbeath, another inspiring, and beloved-by-many Instagram blogger. I’m really excited to share this raw, honest conversation full of Mark’s hard-earned insights and wisdom with you.
Alright … Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
7:43 ~ Mark’s past as a pharmaceutical sales rep, and the turning point that led to him leaving it
10:32 ~ Being in the unknown
17:43 ~ Partners aiding in growth
21:56 ~ Intimacy and connection
24:16 ~ The importance of support for individuals in a relationship
26:53 ~ The most important thing a man must learn to do intimate relationships well
36:46 ~ Men and boundaries
45:54 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
50:22 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
51:13 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Make staying connected to people the most important thing
52:25 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: Alan Watts (Philosopher)
53:16 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie (Book)
54:42 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Going to conferences on personal growth and training each year Training program with Dr Joe Dispenza on Changing Beliefs
56:52 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Meditation – Insight Timer App
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
Find Mark @ www.MarkGroves.tv
The Mark Groves Podcast
https://bryanreeves.com/?p=46950 Does “inner freedom” seem to elude you, always just outside your reach no matter what you do? Did you know the worst thing that can happen to you is just a thought? Did you know all that clarity you seek … you already have? Ash Ruiz is a fascinating human being. As a teenager, he ... <a title="The Power of Allowing w/ Ash Ruiz (010)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/the-power-of-allowing-with-ash-ruiz-010/">Read more</a> Does “inner freedom” seem to elude you, always just outside your reach no matter what you do? Did you know the worst thing that can happen to you is just a thought? Did you know all that clarity you seek … you already have? Does “inner freedom” seem to elude you, always just outside your reach no matter what you do?
Did you know the worst thing that can happen to you is just a thought?
Did you know all that clarity you seek … you already have?

Ash Ruiz is a fascinating human being.
As a teenager, he was a member of the latin boy band, Menudo, one of the most successful music groups in history.
Ash is also one of my dearest friends, and a man whose presence in my life changed everything.
I met Ash in Miami, in 2005, and soon after spent about 6 years managing his wildly talented and inspiring music band, Here II Here, which he formed with 4 other talented men and musicians a few years after leaving Menudo … but he did something else wild and fascinating after Menudo, before Here II Here.
When all his fellow Menuditos, like Ricky Martin, were working to uplevel their fame with solo albums and soap opera appearances, Ash quietly left the spotlight and went to the jungles of Peru for a few years, where he met that pungent shamanic medicine jungle brew, ayahuasca, which ripped his eyes and heart wide open to deeper spiritual truths beneath twinkling star-studded flying-saucer skies.
In fact, you should go listen to
Here II Here (on spotify) and Ash’s music (here) because his music, like his everyday being, which you’ll meet in a moment, is DRENCHED with the spirit of Ash’s awakening experiences.
I had the great privilege of touring with Ash and the band all over North America for 12 months in 2009 and 10 in a Dodge Durango SUV hauling a 12-foot trailer full of instruments, CDs, and dreams. We performed over 150 concerts in 80+ cities where we slept in the homes of countless fans who gave us not just beds and living room floors and couches and backyard tents and once even a barn to sleep in, but they gave us so much love, too … Ash’s and Here II Here’s songs, their talent for making inspired music come alive on stage, enraptured and inspired everyone who fortunate to experience them during their 14 year run. We heard stories of fans playing their music when birthing their children, and one fan played their song, Holy, on his deathbed, with his family surrounding him, as he transitioned from this life into the next.
Through his music, his presence, his being, and especially his laughter which you’ll get to experience in this fun, inspired conversation, Ash has been a profound gift in my life. He’s the guru I never wanted, but so glad I had, because his influence runs throughout my life’s work as a thriving life coach to men, women, and couples, particularly in my emphasis on learning to see EVERYTHING that happens around us not as something happening TO us, but rather something that is always happening FOR our benefit, even if we can’t yet see it.
I’m super excited to share Ash’s presence and wit and wisdom with you.
Alright … Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
15:04 ~ A significant experience in Ash’s early life
20:30 ~ “The worst thing that can ever happen to me is just a thought”
23:33 ~ Not buying into what “has to” happen
26:37 ~ The experience of Here II Here’s breakup despite great expectations
31:13 ~ Ash’s ayahuasca journey to the jungles of Peru
35:40 ~ Contentment vs. achievement
37:01 ~ Love and personal boundaries
41:05 ~ “The road to hell is paved with good intentions”
43:25 ~ What men need to know to have fulfilling intimate relationships
45:54 ~ The power of willingness
49:28 ~ Finding the third way
51:07 ~ Favorite memories of touring with Here II Here
55:12 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
55:38 ~ KEY INSIGHT: You are not your thoughts
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The Emotionally Unavailable Man w/ Jayson Gaddis (009) https://bryanreeves.com/the-emotionally-unavailable-man-with-jayson-gaddis-009/ Wed, 20 Feb 2019 17:28:46 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=46943 Do you know what “emotionally unavailable” actually means? Do you know why it’s so destructive to intimacy – and a man’s life, in general? Do you know how easy it is for a man to say – even believe! – he’s both feet into a relationship with only one foot actually in? If you’ve never ... <a title="The Emotionally Unavailable Man w/ Jayson Gaddis (009)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/the-emotionally-unavailable-man-with-jayson-gaddis-009/">Read more</a> Do you know what “emotionally unavailable” actually means? Do you know why it’s so destructive to intimacy – and a man’s life, in general? Do you know how easy it is for a man to say – even believe! – he’s both feet into a relationship with only one fo... Do you know what “emotionally unavailable” actually means?
Do you know why it’s so destructive to intimacy – and a man’s life, in general?
Do you know how easy it is for a man to say – even believe! – he’s both feet into a relationship with only one foot actually in?

If you’ve never heard of Jayson Gaddis, it’s only because you’ve never thought to actually learn how intimate relationships can work.
As my own relationship coaching practice began to take off a few years ago, people started telling me about this guy named Jayson Gaddis, that I needed to look into him. When I began my relationship with my fiance, herself a marriage and family therapist, she would mention his name and his podcast, the Smart Couple, as a great resource with practical tools for couples.
Jayson’s name followed me like my shadow. And with good reason.
Although we’ve never met in person, I decided to invite Jayson onto “Men, This Way” when I learned he was teaching relationship courses to high school students. I mean, in addition to his Relationship School, his own podcast, his therapy and coaching practice,  teaching relationship skills to high school students struck me as both incredibly important – surely more so than trigonometry or chemistry, since we ALL do relationships but so few of us are astrophysicists or whatever the hell chemistry majors do – but it also struck me as potentially futile, because at that age, aren’t we far more influenced by what we SEE and EXPERIENCE at home and in the world around us than by what someone teaches us in a classroom for a few hours?
Still, Jayson’s been doing this work for a while, he’s successfully married – by which I don’t just mean still together with his wife, but thriving in relationship with her – and he’s got two kids. And he’s brutally honest about how actually screwing up past relationships has helped shape him as a powerful healer and leader in this space, for both men and women.
So if there’s anyone who’s going to teach teenagers how to do relationship well? It’s Jayson Gaddis.
In this conversation, Jayson shares a surprising detail about that work, but more so we explore emotional unavailability, as well as practices for men to be more self-aware so we can be more emotionally present. And definitely stay tuned for Jayson’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of “Men, This Way” …
Alright … Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
7:49 ~ A significant early experience in Jayson Gaddis’ life
12:41 ~ Shutting down vulnerability as man
13:58 ~ Teaching relationship courses to teenagers
17:08 ~ One of the greatest gifts we can offer as a holder of another’s experience
20:49 ~ Balancing focusing on outcomes and being present with your loved ones
25:05 ~ One offering for creating a truly fulfilling intimate relationship
26:57 ~ Being responsible for your partner’s nervous system
29:26 ~ Realizing how fear plays out in a relationship, and having one foot in instead of two
33:17 ~ Understanding how if one does not show up consistently for a relationship, it will end
36:27 ~ Intimacy is a value
40:05 ~ The greatest challenge facing men in the world today
41:49 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
42:26 ~ KEY INSIGHT:
Your past relationship pain will follow you unless you deal with it
44:00 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM:
Dr John D. Martini polymath teacher on money, relationships, fulfillment, and more
45:20 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast):
Movie: Free Solo;
Book: “Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain” by Daniel J. Siegel;
Book: “Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind” by Yuval Noah Harari
Podcast: How I Built This with Guy Raz
46:57 ~ KEY INVESTMENT:
Family trip to Vancouver
48:12 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to listeners):
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Bryan Reeves yes 54:36
How to Shift from Anger to Love w/ Preston Smiles (008) https://bryanreeves.com/how-to-shift-from-anger-to-love-with-preston-smiles-008/ Wed, 13 Feb 2019 06:08:52 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=46916 What is this thing called LOVE … really all about? How do you know when you’re being genuinely loving … versus just being an arrogant self-righteous ass?  Also, do men, CAN men, actually have NEEDS in a relationship? If so, why do we so often fail to own them? In the last few years, Preston ... <a title="How to Shift from Anger to Love w/ Preston Smiles (008)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/how-to-shift-from-anger-to-love-with-preston-smiles-008/">Read more</a> What is this thing called LOVE … really all about? How do you know when you’re being genuinely loving … versus just being an arrogant self-righteous ass?  Also, do men, CAN men, actually have NEEDS in a relationship? If so, What is this thing called LOVE … really all about?
How do you know when you’re being genuinely loving … versus just being an arrogant self-righteous ass? 
Also, do men, CAN men, actually have NEEDS in a relationship? If so, why do we so often fail to own them?

In the last few years, Preston Smiles’ global presence has exploded, as both he and his wife, Alexi Panos, have become social media darling superstars thanks to the vibrant and colorful messages of love and healing they share with millions of people all over the world through their inspiring books, workshops, videos, and more.
Although we’ve met a number of times – actually, my fiance, Silvy Khoucasian, knew Preston personally long before she and I met – this is the first time we’ve been able to have a substantial conversation.
And I wanted to have a substantial conversation and get REAL with Preston about what is LOVE. After all, he’s a self-proclaimed “Messenger of Love.”
But I’ve personally had a few awful experiences with other so-called “messengers of love,” and seen firsthand it’s way too easy to justify treating people terribly when you believe what you’re doing, you’re doing out of love.
Like a parent who beats their child thinking it’s for the kid’s own good. Or a partner who criticizes you thinking they’re just trying to make you a better person.
Where’s the distinction between love and abuse?
So Preston and I talk about what it looks like to LIVE with a big-view spiritual perspective of oneness and connection and everything is Love … while simultaneously understanding and embracing our HUMANNESS, which means recognizing how we can hurt people, and some things we can do to prevent ourselves from merely perpetuating more hurt and pain.
Actually, I really appreciate Preston’s candor in today’s conversation about how he struggles to be present with his partner when his brain has just flipped into fight or flight mode – in his case fight mode – when he’s just heard some perceived criticism of his character.
That’s a big one for me, too, and if you’ve ever experienced that, definitely listen to the end of this podcast. Because we give you some practices you can do to get yourself out of that threat mode, so fights end faster, and you get back to simply LOVING each other again.
And stay tuned for Preston’s 5 Key Takeaways at the end. I especially liked the key practice he recommends for the next 7 days.
Alright … let’s dive
SHOW NOTES
12:31 ~ What does “Amplifying Love” mean?
15:06 ~ Knowing when you are being a presence of love (vs. an arrogant ass)
17:55 ~ The distinction between the spiritual and human aspects of love
19:58 ~ Addressing men’s programming
22:17 ~ Depictions of relationship in media
22:41 ~ “Power with” versus “power over”
26:24 ~ Being in fight-or-flight mode and how to handle it
32:06 ~ Changing your state
37:16 ~ Considering life’s seasons in relationships
40:06 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
41:54 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
42:33 ~ KEY INSIGHT:
Success is sequential not simultaneous
44:42 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM:
Michael Beckwith (Author, Minister)
Bob Marley (Musician)
Preston Smiles
45:51 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast):
“The One Thing” by Gary Keller (Book)
“Conversations with God” (Book One, Two, and Three) by Neale Donald Walsch (Book)
“The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure” by Grant Cardone (Book)
The Bridge Experience (www.BridgeExperience.com) – Workshops presented by Preston Smiles and Alexi Panos
47:12 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000):
Hiring an integrator (or an assistant … someone who can do all the businessy-things you don’t want to do!]]>
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Why Uncomfortable Conversations Will Enrich Your Life w/ Connor Beaton, Mantalks Founder (007) https://bryanreeves.com/why-uncomfortable-conversations-will-enrich-your-life-with-connor-beaton-mantalks-founder-007/ Wed, 06 Feb 2019 17:48:51 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=46900 Why is it important for a man to be open and honest about his personal challenges, what he’s really going through in his work, his relationships, his life … especially with other men? When we hide what we’re going through behind a facade of invulnerability, what’s the cost to our lives, our intimate relationships, our ... <a title="Why Uncomfortable Conversations Will Enrich Your Life w/ Connor Beaton, Mantalks Founder (007)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/why-uncomfortable-conversations-will-enrich-your-life-with-connor-beaton-mantalks-founder-007/">Read more</a> Why is it important for a man to be open and honest about his personal challenges, what he’s really going through in his work, his relationships, his life … especially with other men? When we hide what we’re going through behind a facade of invulnerabi... Why is it important for a man to be open and honest about his personal challenges, what he’s really going through in his work, his relationships, his life … especially with other men?
When we hide what we’re going through behind a facade of invulnerability, what’s the cost to our lives, our intimate relationships, our vitality as Men?

I met Connor Beaton a few years ago at an event his organization, ManTalks, was putting on in Los Angeles, right when I was in the middle of a 3-week breakup with my girlfriend. I was just being gutted by that experience, and going to Connor’s event – being around inspiring, inspired men, having honest conversations about our experience as men … was so helpful to me in navigating that painful experience.
Fortunately she and I got back together a few weeks later – she’s now my fiance – and I also felt like I’d found a new friend in Connor.
Since then, I’ve become a big Connor Beaton fan. His TedX talk on masculinity is one of my all-time favorites of any Tedx or TED talk. It’s brilliant, and will probably make you cry … and you should go watch it – AFTER this podcast.
Mantalks is an international organization focused on men’s health, wellness, success, and fulfillment. And I believe one of the most challenging works any man can give himself to in this world is work that supports other men to get honest with themselves, to take real responsibility for their lives, including our messes and mess-ups, and learn how to be truly vulnerable in powerful ways that stop perpetuating darkness and insanity, but rather lift and light up our world, the world, and everyone in it. I know because I’m attempting that work. So is Connor … and big time.
As I was preparing for this interview, reading everything I could about him, I actually had a moment of despair, because it occurred to me that he’s already doing so much to support men on their journey to being better husbands, fathers, leaders, so maybe I should just stick to focusing on supporting women and couples … or just go find other work altogether!
But I took a few deep breaths and got over it, because truth is, we can’t possibly have too many men doing work to support other men, and what followed was a truly inspiring conversation between us that I’m honored and excited to share with you … Be sure to stay for Connor’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way…
Alright … Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
9:39 ~ Where is Connor Beaton challenged in his life right now?
12:45 ~ Grieving in transitionary periods in life
14:14 ~ Defining ourselves in terms of our outer reality
22:11 ~ What brought Connor to this work?
24:23 ~ The one rule of men
26:33 ~ How Connor’s life is made richer through his relationships with other men
31:41 ~ Men thriving off of battle and challenge
36:19 ~ What men have to celebrate about being a man today
37:02 ~ Power over versus power with
40:40 ~ The biggest challenge facing men today
48:41 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
49:16 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Strive for internal validation
51:19 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: Carl Jung, Father of Analytical Psychology
Anthony De Mello, Jesuit Priest and Psychotherapist
52:41 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast):
Book: “Awareness” by Anthony De Mello
Podcast: ManTalks Podcast – Mantalks Podcast Episode with Beau Lotto
54:40 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Audible – audiobook app
Meditation coach or program
56:53 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening):
Cold showers
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Bryan Reeves yes 1:03:03
Relaxing into (True) Freedom w/ GuruViking aka Steve James (006) https://bryanreeves.com/relaxing-into-true-freedom-with-guruviking-aka-steve-james-006/ Wed, 30 Jan 2019 17:04:54 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=46886 What is the actual point (and benefit) of meditation? Are intimate relationships always going to feel burdensome? How can we men ever experience true freedom amidst life’s endless challenges? Steve James is a wise man. I’ve known Steve personally for a few years. He’s been my teacher, my coach, and as a man I just ... <a title="Relaxing into (True) Freedom w/ GuruViking aka Steve James (006)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/relaxing-into-true-freedom-with-guruviking-aka-steve-james-006/">Read more</a> What is the actual point (and benefit) of meditation? Are intimate relationships always going to feel burdensome? How can we men ever experience true freedom amidst life’s endless challenges? Steve James is a wise man. What is the actual point (and benefit) of meditation?
Are intimate relationships always going to feel burdensome?
How can we men ever experience true freedom amidst life’s endless challenges?

Steve James is a wise man. I’ve known Steve personally for a few years. He’s been my teacher, my coach, and as a man I just really like being around, I’m going to claim him as my friend, too.
I’ve led an extraordinary life, and I’m envious of Steve’s extraordinary life!
Growing up on the windswept Shetland Islands off the northern-most coast of Scotland, in his teens Steve was apprenticed to a Christian mystic from the Celtic tradition of Christianity, which launched him into years of deep, personal inquiry and practice around various forms of prayer, contemplation, meditation, textual study, and service.
Much like mine, Steve’s path of investigating the human experience is through his own direct experience. He’s explored the limits of physical and psychological performance through his fascination with extreme outdoor survival expeditions, including arctic survival training in the boreal forests of northern Sweden, where daytime temperatures reach highs of only -24°C.
When I learned that Steve had also toured internationally as a guitarist and musical director with multiple #1 best-selling pop artists out of the UK, well, I found the parallel to my own former life as an indie band manager both curious and delightful.
There’s so much to say about Steve’s experience; I feel very much a kindred spirit with this man, whom one of his many fans described as “the human, fiery bearded re-incarnation of Yoda.” … and he does totally have a Yoda with a British accent thing going on. Steve’s work is full of the embrace of paradox, which I’ve discovered is an essential practice on the quest to living a truly masterful life, for not just surviving but actually thriving in intimate relationship, and for simply feeling alive.
We talk about the living practice of paradox – and more – in this episode of “Men, This Way.”
Alright … Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
8:04 ~ A significant early experience in Steve James’ life
15:50 ~ How a near-death experience continues to inform Steve’s life
20:15 ~ What men should know about intimate relationships
22:57 ~ Your purpose for having a relationships and how that will not always be met
26:08 ~ Examining our assumptions about relationships
27:26 ~ The importance of feeling our emotions and feelings in our body
36:13 ~ The profundity of meditation
46:22 ~ Pushing to “the edge”
50:23 ~ One of Steve’s “edges”
55:25 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
56:08 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Find your own insight
57:14 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: Bruce Lee, particularly his book “Tao of Jeet Kune Do”
58:28 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): Book: Michaela Boehm’s “The Wild
Woman’s Way: Unlock Your Full Potential for Pleasure, Power, and Fulfillment”
59:48 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Tibetan language lessons
1:01:21 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): 5 minutes of mindfulness
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
www.guruviking.com
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Bryan Reeves yes 1:06:11
Being a True Leader Means Being Able to Shut Up and Listen (Especially in Intimacy) w/ Joshua Hathaway (005) https://bryanreeves.com/being-a-true-leader-means-being-able-to-shut-up-and-listen-especially-in-intimacy-with-joshua-hathaway-005/ Wed, 23 Jan 2019 09:45:37 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=46876 Do you communicate clearly with your partner? … Are you sure? Do you even know what your partner is asking for, when they’re asking you to listen? Do you know what TRUE MASCULINE LEADERSHIP is? I first experienced Joshua Hathaway one evening in Los Angeles when he was leading a workshop for men. I remember ... <a title="Being a True Leader Means Being Able to Shut Up and Listen (Especially in Intimacy) w/ Joshua Hathaway (005)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/being-a-true-leader-means-being-able-to-shut-up-and-listen-especially-in-intimacy-with-joshua-hathaway-005/">Read more</a> Do you communicate clearly with your partner? … Are you sure? Do you even know what your partner is asking for, when they’re asking you to listen? Do you know what TRUE MASCULINE LEADERSHIP is? I first experienced Joshua Hathaway one evening in Los Ang... Do you communicate clearly with your partner? … Are you sure?
Do you even know what your partner is asking for, when they’re asking you to listen?
Do you know what TRUE MASCULINE LEADERSHIP is?

I first experienced Joshua Hathaway one evening in Los Angeles when he was leading a workshop for men. I remember feeling so awake in my spirit and alive in my body by the end of that evening, because Joshua wove in the severely overlooked need of adult men to be PLAYFUL together .. and so we played a lot that evening, and man it was so refreshing. Because I’m way too serious, way too often.
Although I haven’t known him long, since that workshop I’ve been captivated by Joshua’s presence, and his ability to hold the attention of men, to inspire men to deeper connection with themselves, and from there, with others. I wouldn’t describe Joshua as confident. I would describe him AS the personification of confidence, itself.
Joshua is also the founder of the company actually called, “No Bullsh!t Communication,” through which he offers private and organizational trainings, as well as coaching and consulting.
The core of Joshua’s work, which I so appreciate given the coaching work I do with couples, is helping people create real, meaningful connection.
In this conversation, we dive into communication in relationships, the true role of masculine leadership (hint: shut up and listen), and so much more.
Definitely stay tuned for Joshua’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of “Men, This Way.”
Alright … Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
6:11 ~ A formative event in Joshua’s life as a man
8:21 ~ The importance of deeply connected, intimate male bonds and friendships
10:05 ~ Male vulnerability in relationships and taking ownership
13:20 ~ The difference between the story and the phenomenon
20:22 ~ How Joshua learnt the difference between truth and stories
25:26 ~ Listening, and the difference between validation and agreement
30:28 ~ How becoming a father changed Joshua’s life
35:02 ~ Leaders take responsibility and do what need to be done
36:34 ~ Something truly terrifying that Joshua has done
38:29 ~ When to say yes, and when to say no
42:45 ~ Men and their relationship with what they want
44:17 ~ The shadow implications of men not pursuing what they want
45:13 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
49:14 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
50:39 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Shut up and listen
51:27 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: David Schnarch (psychotherapist), particularly his book “Passionate Marriage”
52:21 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): “Non-Violent Communication” (book) by Marshall Rosenburg
52:17 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Black foam roller
54:20 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Daily self-affirmations
OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
Find Joshua @ www.MasterYourBullshit.com
As well as The Brotherhood Community @ www.BrotherhoodCommunity.com
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Stop Chasing Success (Money) Have Fun Instead with CEO Ajit Nawalkha (004) https://bryanreeves.com/stop-chasing-success-money-have-fun-instead-with-ceo-ajit-nawalkha-004/ Wed, 16 Jan 2019 17:50:20 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=46839 Are you stuck in work overwhelm, living to work rather than working to simply enjoy life? Do you know how to stay true to yourself and STILL create a fulfilling intimate relationship? Are you aware how you need an encouraging support crew of men you can be vulnerable with … for the sake of your ... <a title="Stop Chasing Success (Money) Have Fun Instead w/ CEO Ajit Nawalkha (004)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/stop-chasing-success-money-have-fun-instead-with-ceo-ajit-nawalkha-004/">Read more</a> Are you stuck in work overwhelm, living to work rather than working to simply enjoy life? Do you know how to stay true to yourself and STILL create a fulfilling intimate relationship? Are you aware how you need an encouraging support crew of men you ca... Are you stuck in work overwhelm, living to work rather than working to simply enjoy life?
Do you know how to stay true to yourself and STILL create a fulfilling intimate relationship?
Are you aware how you need an encouraging support crew of men you can be vulnerable with … for the sake of your intimate relationship?

Ajit Nawalkha’s story is fairytale-like. He grew up in Jaipur, India – in the northern state of Rajasthan in a small home crowded with 23 family members. From Rajasthan, which means the Land of Kings, Life took Ajit on an adventure through the realms of business, marketing, and publishing, across the Bay of Bengal and the Andaman Sea to Malaysia and Kuala Lumpur, where he quickly rose to become, by his early 30s, the CEO of Mindvalley, an innovative and exciting transformational education company that has trained millions of people around the world in the exploding realm of human potential. I met Ajit a year ago, through his wife, my old friend, the brilliant and talented in her own right, Neeta Bhushan Nawalkha. Despite his remarkable rise from humble beginnings to become a King among thought leader Kings, Ajit carries himself with such an unassuming presence; he’s calm and cool in a way that tells you everything is going to be ok.
Ajit is also the co-founder of Evercoach, an incredible training experience for coaches that helped fundamentally reshape my own coaching practice back in 2015 when Evercoach was launched, in ways that continue to make a massive difference for me, and for my clients.
Be sure to stay for Ajit’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way …
Alright … Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
6:09 ~ The most surprising part of becoming a father
7:24 ~ The shift that takes place when becoming a parent
11:06 ~ A formative event in Ajit’s early life
15:18 ~ His start on the path of abundance
16:30 ~ His journey to where he is now, and what helped him overcome fears in taking action
19:58 ~ Asking tough questions when planning for achieving abundance
22:00 ~ “The point of music is discovered in every moment of playing and listening to it. It is the same, I feel, with the greater part of our lives, and if we are unduly absorbed in improving them we may forget altogether to live them.” – Alan Watts
22:26 ~ Watching 4 hours of Netflix a day and being deliberate with work
23:44 ~ Don’t work because you have to
26:18 ~ The impact of male family members and mentors in Ajit’s development
28:55 ~ The importance of sharing between men
31:29 ~ Regular meetings with other men to keep space for raising issues
34:32 ~ Knowledge for intimate relationships
37:21 ~ The power of reflection and transformation in relationships
38:34 ~ The importance of individuality
40:05 ~ Maintaining, not resolving tension
41:55 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
45:55 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
46:36 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Take a break and find yourself
47:06 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: Ajit’s father, Bryan Reeves, Vishen Lakhiani, Tony Robbins
47:34 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): Stealing Fire (Book)
48:16 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Mind Valley’s A-Fest: www.afest.com
48:54 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): When triggered, lean into the conversation and talk through it.
RESOURCES
Ajit’s Book “Live Big” @ www.livebigthebook.com
Ajit on LinkedIn
Ajit on https://bryanreeves.com/?p=46799 Are you still afraid of death? Did you know that emotional presence … that thing women often cite as the reason they don’t trust men … is something you can relax into? And are you aware you can play a significant role in helping your partner heal past traumas? This conversation with John Wineland was ... <a title="How Death Opens the Masculine Heart w/ John Wineland (003)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/how-death-opens-the-masculine-heart-with-john-wineland-003/">Read more</a> Are you still afraid of death? Did you know that emotional presence … that thing women often cite as the reason they don’t trust men … is something you can relax into? And are you aware you can play a significant role in helping your partner heal past ... Are you still afraid of death?
Did you know that emotional presence … that thing women often cite as the reason they don’t trust men … is something you can relax into?
And are you aware you can play a significant role in helping your partner heal past traumas?

This conversation with John Wineland was deeply moving for me, because death was present when he and I spoke.
And death does well to open the masculine heart.
Just a few months earlier, John made an excruciating decision that is every parent’s nightmare – when he took his 21 year old daughter, Claire Wineland, a young lady who was just a light of inspiration in the world, off life support, ending her rollercoaster journey with cystic fibrosis.
Although John shares some of what he’s learning through this painful experience – and it is PROFOUND! – this interview isn’t specifically about that, because John is actually a renowned coach and teacher who travels world-wide, teaching his vision of embodied men’s work and deep relational practice for couples. He’s been leading men’s groups for decades, and is also a long-time student of author David Deida, the man whose teachings completely changed the way I see the world, and understand myself, and women, forever.
John writes extensively about Masculine Leadership, and you can catch him throughout Europe and the U.S. leading workshops on embodied men’s work, spiritual intimacy and sexual practice.
Definitely stay tuned for john’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way.
Alright … Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
6:46 ~ Fundamental events in John’s early life
9:02 ~ The role of mentors in John’s life and the amazing friends he has as his support network
11:11 ~ The need to be supported by other men when going through difficult times
12:30 ~ The passing of Claire Wineland
13:20 ~ What John has learnt from this difficult experience
15:36 ~ Post- and Pre-death lessons
17:56 ~ Why it matters for men to learn to be present with their emotions and thoughts
19:14 ~ How to deal with our emotions with integrity
20:10 ~ Integrity is not just about our word (hint: emotional integrity)
21:44 ~ The role of grieving in our lives and the importance of being open to it
24:31 ~ How as we become more embodied we become more empathetic to those around us
25:03 ~ “Men it’s time to take responsibility for the sins of our fathers and brothers”
27:51 ~ Masculine leadership is about awareness and knowledge of what affects those around us
28:47 ~ How men benefit from taking responsibility and being part of their partners’ healing process, and thus bring great value to their partners
31:01 ~ A core practice for a truly fulfilling, intimate relationship
32:39 ~ “There is one way of breathing that is shameful and constricted. Then there is another way. A breath of love that takes you all the way to infinity.” – Rumi
33:37 ~ The link between sexual yogic practice and martial arts
33:52 ~ Always own the central line
35:26 ~ How to know what to say “Yes” to and what to say “No” to
37:07 ~ How men can benefit from slowing down strategizing and instead just being present
38:12 ~ The relationship between fear and action, and the need for a “container” when experiencing fear
40:35 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
41:50 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE
42:52 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Make death an ally
43:56 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: David Deida. Groundbreaking work in relationships.
45:13 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): Carlos Castaneda’s books. Journey to Ixtlan in particular.
46:07 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Taking a chance on … (listen to find out)
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Why Commitment Never Works (Only Devotion Does) with Mikki Willis (002) https://bryanreeves.com/commitment-devotion-mikki-willis-002/ Fri, 04 Jan 2019 22:56:53 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=46756 What’s the difference between commitment and DEVOTION in relationship? What should a man be teaching his children in today’s chaotic, confusing, rapidly changing world? What do you do when you keep trying and pushing to solve an important problem … yet it just won’t budge? <p class="read-more-container"><a class="button" href="https://bryanreeves.com/commitment-devotion-mikki-willis-002/">Read more</a></p> What should a man be teaching his children in today’s chaotic, confusing, rapidly changing world? What’s the difference between commitment and DEVOTION in relationship? What should a man be teaching his children in today’s chaotic, confusing, rapidly changing world?
What do you do when you keep trying and pushing to solve an important problem … yet it just won’t budge?
What’s the difference between commitment and DEVOTION in relationship?

Mikki Willis is an award-winning filmmaker, cinematographer, story-teller, and is regarded as a pioneer in the world of transformative media. The founder of Elevate Films, Mikki and his film crews have produced over 400 productions, including network TV shows, movies, commercials, and music videos for multi-platinum artists from the Black Eyed Peas to Alannis Morissette. Mikki was also in New York, inside the twin towers, on the morning of September 11th, 2001, just hours before they went down, and he stayed for 3 days after to help conduct search and rescue efforts.
I first met Mikki in 2011 when I was managing music band, Here II Here, and we performed one evening at an event at Elevate Mansion in Ojai, CA, where Mikki and his crew were both living and making movie magic. It was an unforgettable evening. A few months later, I went to Mikki’s mansion for Thanksgiving dinner, figuring I’d stay a few hours. I didn’t end up leaving for 4 days. I didn’t know I’d just checked in to Hotel California. Nothing in me wanted to leave Mikki’s enchanted world, and it was the last time I went to dinner anywhere in California without a change of underwear in the car.
Since then, Mikki has taught me, personally – and the world through his short videos he regularly posts on facebook with his two young sons and lovely wife, Nadia – about how to create a beautiful, thriving relationship and family. You’ve probably seen the one where his son, all bright eyed and smiley, proudly holds up the barbie doll he just bought at the toy store. Yeah, that video went viral with something like a bazillion views.
Mikki and his family recently lost their home in a massive California wildfire, an excruciating experience he somehow managed to recreate as an inspiration for millions … which is why I invited Mikki to my podcast. Be sure to stay tuned for Mikki’s 5 Key Takeaways at the end of Men, This Way.
Alright …  Let’s dive …
SHOW NOTES
5:00 ~ The best part about being father to two young sons and husband to a beautiful, brilliant ninja-mom woman …
7:20 ~ What a father should be teaching his boys (children) in this confusing, chaotic world …
13:45 ~ A profound life lesson Mikki’s step-father taught him as a kid while Mikki was struggling to fix his bicycle pedal
19:00 ~ The difference between an argument and a fight (with your partner) … and specific language you can use to short-circuit disagreements so you can prevent resentment, stay connected … and MOVE ON!
22:30 ~ What men need to learn to experience/create exquisite relationship
24:30 ~ The profound importance for a Man – even (especially) the “Alpha Male” – to explore his own inner “feminine” essence, to stay connected to his family, his partner, himself.
30:00 ~ Why people get into the wrong relationships.
33:00 ~ Why men wear big expensive watches, drive status cars, etc.
35:00 ~ Inner liberation through welcoming being judged by others.
36:45 ~ Recognizing signs (in your own behavior) that you are hitting a wall of insecurity, and that it’s time to do some inner growth work.
39:00 ~ In “Mission Impossible” Tom Cruise’s character has to choose between marriage/love/intimacy and saving the world … which should you choose?
40:15 ~ Men require family/spousal support to stay deeply connected to purpose, which is essential to ensure a man doesn’t simply work himself into the grave.
41:30 ~ Men need to be needed … or we go elsewhere.
43:30 ~ Men need to be acknowledged.
44:00 ~ Commitment vs Devotion … are you Devoted? Or merely committed?
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There's No One Left To Show Us ~ 001 https://bryanreeves.com/theres-no-one-left-to-show-us-podcast-men-this-way-ep-1/ Mon, 24 Dec 2018 07:20:50 +0000 https://bryanreeves.com/?p=46736 In the very last scene of the recent movie epic, Wind River, two men played by actors Jeremy Renner and Gil Birmingham share a brief conversation that pierced me to my core. In this chilling murder-mystery thriller set on a snowy American Indian reservation in Wyoming, Gil’s character is a native american man named, Martin, ... <a title="There’s No One Left To Show Us (001)" class="read-more" href="https://bryanreeves.com/theres-no-one-left-to-show-us-podcast-men-this-way-ep-1/">Read more</a> Where are the men who are modeling a Manhood that truly lights up the world, rather than merely adds more confusion, heaviness, division, darkness to it? … They’re on this podcast. In the very last scene of the recent movie epic, Wind River, two men played by actors Jeremy Renner and Gil Birmingham share a brief conversation that pierced me to my core. In this chilling murder-mystery thriller set on a snowy American Indian reservation in Wyoming, Gil’s character is a native american man named, Martin, whose family is just shredded by tragedy throughout the film. In this final scene, we find Gil sitting out back behind his house on the ground beneath an old, rusty swing set, staring icily out at a vast, empty, bleak expanse of Wyoming tundra that clearly mirrors his internal state.
His face is covered in a pasty pattern of sky blue and off white paint.
Jeremy Renner, as wildlife officer Cory, walks up and sits down on the ground beside Martin. The two have been friends a long time, and they share a deeply painful past, having both lost a teenage daughter to the violence of men.
Cory asks his friend, “what’s with the paint?”
Martin replies, ‘It’s my death face.’
Cory presses, ‘And how do you know what that is?’
In a moment of heart-wrenching vulnerability, this strong, proud native american man looks at Cory and responds, “I don’t. I made it up. There’s no one left to teach me.”
Welcome to the podcast, “Men, This Way” … Life Insights from Wise Men.
I’m your host, Bryan Reeves … I created this show because I, too, have for too long felt like there’s no one left to teach me.
Sure, there are countless men – and women – who can show me, or you, how to write a business plan, or ride a motorcycle, or write code, or enter politics, or drink whiskey properly or … start a podcast … but where are the men showing us the way into a mature, wise, disciplined, fierce AND loving, heart-connected Manhood?
In some way, every man on the planet is teaching something, mostly unconsciously and unintentionally, about what it means and looks like to be a man … it’s just … what are most men teaching? Is what we see when we look into the world of men, is that what I and so many men and boys who will become men, really want to learn about being a MAN?
In recent years, it’s become clear to me, that I, and countless men I’ve known both as friends, and also as clients in coaching practice, have spent so much of our lives in deep longing for real connection to wise, elder men, men who can show us more than merely how to make money or score women or win and conquer – in politics, business, sports, war – no matter the cost to others, or ourselves.
Where are such men?
Where is the Man who has grown to embrace ALL the aspects of his inner being – from his ignorance to his brilliance, from his shame to his confidence, from his rage to his joy, from the heavy shadows where his demons hide to his wild, radiant heart that brings blessings into the world …
Where is the Man who no longer needs to exploit others for his own selfish gain, who doesn’t need to work incessantly on his abs, or his stock portfolio, because he’s too afraid to be with Life as it is, and himself, as he is?
Where is the Man who has learned to stay present in relationships, emotionally as much as physically, who knows in his being how to combine discipline and fierceness WITH gentleness and caring, so that his loved ones don’t just respect him, but their lives are made richer in every way by his loving presence.
Where is the man who has discovered his mortality, who knows he is going to die, and rather than be haunted by that and do everything he can to avoid it or distract from it, he’s inspired by it instead, surrendered to simply offering his unique gifts to the world, to his community, to his loved ones, whether that be his wisdom, his insight, his resources, or simply his strong, loving presence … whether or not he gets anything in return for his offering.
Speaking of which … where is the man who knows how to really love.]]>
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