Have you ever had an intimate partner be routinely upset (with you), and you (mostly) had no clue why?
How do your triggers from previous relationships show up in a new relationship, too?
How can your childhood experience – even if you had great parents – still negatively affect your adult relationships?
This episode of Men, This Way is a rebroadcast of one of my favorite ever interviews, which I recently did on another podcast … the Mark Groves podcast, hosted by my old friend, Mark Groves of the popular page, CreateTheLove on Instagram … and we dive into an essential topic.
I’ve gotten so much inspired feedback on this interview from both men and women … one woman even wrote to tell me this episode was so deeply comforting and healing for her that she’s listened to it 2-3x each day for a week, even falling asleep to it at night!
Plus … I love Mark Groves. He’s just a good dude, and he’s funny, and he held a great space for this conversation to unfold. His podcast, The Mark Groves Podcast, is super cool, too, and you should check it out on your favorite podcast app.
Mark’s Highlights of this Episode
Bryan Reeves is our guest this week and I am so excited to introduce you to a man who has truly lived a life of adventure and exploration. Bryan and I discuss his journey, from hyper-masculine army careerist, to wandering the Earth, and later to being a relationship and life coach.
Bryan talks us through the journey that broke his heart, opened his heart and totally renewed his joy for life.
Bryan and Mark go DEEP on all things masculinity this week.
- Why did Bryan’s girlfriends always end up frustrated and angry with him?
- Why do men follow Instagram models and damage their relationships with online behaviour?
- How can childhood emotional neglect – even the most subtle forms – play out in our adult lives?
- And what about our triggers, how can triggers from previous relationships or previous lives continue to impact our current partners.
Mark and Bryan discuss the challenges that every couple is bound to face.
Episode highlights (times not exact):
6:00 – The journey from army career to relationship coach.
9:30 – Finding the subject that ‘lit’ me up
10:30 – Why are the women I am in relationship with always angry at me?
15:00 – Instagram and the online world affecting relationships.
22:00 – Childhood emotional neglect – how can the most subtle forms affect our adult life?
28:00 – What triggers us in our parents, what does this reflect in us?
49:00 – Therapy, coaches and relationships, the value of working with someone from outside of our relationship.
51:00 – Triggers from past, childhood and their influence in current situations.