If you're struggling with intimate relationship …

Discover the 3 Essential Boundaries for an Intimate, Connected Relationship

Before helping 1000s as a relationship coach…
My own relationships were an absolute train wreck

Before I became “Bryan Reeves,” the Life and Relationship Insight Ninja ...

… who has over 30 million readers on my blog

… who is the author of three books on relationships

… and who has been blessed to connect with and work on inspired projects with brilliant luminaries like Oprah, Don Miguel Ruiz, Marianne Williamson, Deepak Chopra, and many more.

Before all that, I was just … Bryan Reeves, a guy who sucked at relationships.

And let me tell ya…

I was just getting battered around trying to figure out how love works.

I had done some hard things already:

I retired as a Captain of the Air Force.

And I’d helped grow a business to $50 million.

So I considered myself reasonably capable and intelligent.

Plus, I grew up with 2 moms and 3 sisters. (long story)

So I’ve held a deep respect for women since my youth.

Because of this…

I really thought that as long as I did my best in my relationships, everything would be okay.

But reality couldn’t have felt painfully further from the truth.

Serious issues came up between me and my partners.

Routinely, we would both feel unheard and abandoned…

We would feel dismissed and, sometimes, that we were the only one who really CARED about the relationship or being reasonable….

We would argue way too much and experience intimacy too rarely…

We didn’t feel safe to be ourselves…

I’m telling you, there were some serious train wrecks. (I’ll tell you a bit more about them later, for reasons I’ll soon explain).

My 20s and early 30s were filled with relationship mistakes.

Mistakes that were very good teachers to me.

Of all the lessons they taught me, this one may be the most important of the bunch.

One key shift allowed for a healthy, intimate
and respectful relationship

These days, things are very different.

I’ve learned a ton about what it really takes to be in an intimate relationship.

And for 7 years I’ve been guiding hundreds of people through the same epiphanies I’ve had.

So it’s no surprise that basically every day that I get emails from followers or questions from clients that point to a single issue.

The women I serve consistently ask:

“How do I get him to listen to me or to stop doing xyz?”

“I don’t want to be controlling… am I just being insecure?”

“Why am I always expected to do twice as much as anyone else? It’s just not fair.”

“I’m seeing red flags with someone I just started dating… what do I do?”

“I don’t even feel like myself anymore. This isn’t who I remember myself as. Is this relationship over? Are we bad for each other?”

These are all painful, important and real questions.

Questions that point to one thing.

A lack of healthy boundaries.

Being in Relationship with healthy boundaries

I’ll tell you a bit about my personal relationship because it’s important for you to understand how things change when you do boundaries right.

My partner Silvy is a marriage and family therapist.

So not only do we talk about this sort of stuff all the time…

We’re VERY intent on honoring our own AND each other’s boundaries.

Now, we’re not perfect. Sometimes we fumble…

But we repair quickly and we’re both engaged and committed.

And because of that it is an absolute privilege to be in relationship with her.

We both feel empowered, strong and self-confident.

Neither of us is the ‘alpha’ — we’re able to be real partners WITHOUT sacrificing our masculine - feminine dynamic.

Our interactions are healthy, loving and supportive. We both get treated the way we know we deserve to be treated.

And when there IS upset, we can hold space in a way that we BOTH get to be in the room.

Which means that if she’s upset about something, then it’s okay for her to express that without being made to feel crazy or unreasonable. She gets to be heard.

And then we can talk about it in a respectful way because that’s what having healthy boundaries looks like.

There’s no more dread about coming home like past relationships.

Instead, we’re excited to be home and together. We spend lots of time with each other and we wouldn’t have it any other way.

We see it in our respective clients all the time too.

Whether single or as couples, they come with their own tangle of emotions and triggers to get through.

And on the other side of working through that, they enjoy much healthier boundaries.

Boundaries that do one of two things:

Give them a stronger, more connected and more loving relationship that they feel safe and heard in…

Or…

Give them enough self-love, self-respect and compassion to leave a relationship that’s not right for them (before they start hating each other).

Whichever direction they go in, it's always transformatively good and healing.

And it's true that there’s absolutely more to having a great love life than having healthy boundaries.

But relationships seriously suck without ‘em.

So boundaries are always one of the best places to start.

This is the most pleasant way to learn this stuff

When I was figuring all of this stuff out, there wasn’t a handbook on how to do this right.

Instead, I had to learn these lessons the painful way.

I entered a 5-year relationship that turned abusive within months…

I’ve had to call the police twice in a relationship…

I’ve been in some screaming matches…

I’ve said things I wish I could take back as soon as they left my lips…

And there were many times both me and my partners felt dismissed, dejected and unfairly treated.

Still…

When I look back on it, those experiences are some of the best things that ever happened to me.

That probably sounds like a crazy thing to say.

But I mean it.

Don’t get me wrong. Most of those experiences were torturous.

It was a “crap” mountain. (To be clean)

But it was also a mountain of relationship gold.

Gold that you can have without going through more years of your own pain and broken relationships.

Here's how:

In just a minute, you’ll get a short video.

This video will explain the 3 essential boundaries that must be upheld to have a safe, loving and connected relationship.

After you watch it, you’ll have a much clearer understanding of what’s happening in your relationships that keeps you feeling disconnected and discontented…

And a better idea of what to do about it.

Fill out the form below to get this short video as my gift to you.

Talk to you soon,

Bryan Reeves

P.S. After you get the video, I’ll be sending you a few emails.

In them, I’ll teach you a bit more about boundaries and I’ll open up about the different experiences I’ve had.

Make sure to check your inbox for details.

They’re pretty valuable stories.

So click here to get the video and chat soon.