Bryan Reeves' Blog - Greatest Hits

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The Myth of Masculine Leadership

There’s a dangerous idea floating around our world like poisonous spore that masculine leadership means simply: “man leads, woman follows.” This ideal obviously runs deep in many patriarchal religions, but you’ll also run into it in the world of “conscious polarity” where often charismatic teachers insist relationships work best when a ”man is in his … Read more

The (Unfathomable) Los Angeles Fires of 2025

What’s unfolding in Los Angeles is just impossibly tragic. Beyond the human capacity to mentally process. My wife and I moved back to Los Angeles in early 2024. I’m originally from the American North East. I’m no stranger to intense weather: thunderstorms, blizzards, wind, and the occasional power outage lasting a few days or a … Read more

Why So Many Men Feel Lost

Daddy issues.Only women have daddy issues … is what I was led to believe by countless other boys and men I know now were themselves just teeming with unexamined daddy issues.(like nipples, men have ‘em, too.)My father has been overwhelmingly absent throughout my life. I used to think, “How could he have messed me up? … Read more

Men Often Struggle to Feel Fully Alive In Relationships

A lot of men find it challenging to feel fully alive when in a long-term committed intimate relationship. Some men, who perhaps enjoyed being single, who felt lively & dynamic without the responsibilities a relationship brings, may struggle to maintain that vitality while settling into long-term relationship. Being in a two-person system (relationship) requires different … Read more

The Election … and The Shadow Within Us All

In every relationship there is shadow. Whether within a couple … or in a land of diverse peoples. In a few days nearly half the population of the United States of America will be plunged into a nightmare. Which means that damn near everyone is bracing (at least subconsciously) for their own nightmare to potentially … Read more

When Grief Offers You No Closure …

Earlier this week, my wife showed me three photos of young children, two girls and a little boy each maybe 3 or 4 years old, that she’d made using an app that combined her image with mine. This is what our children might have looked like, children we learned not long ago we are biologically … Read more

When Men Don’t Trust Other Men (Everyone Suffers)

This week, I’m off to the ancient Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina for my annual ELEVATE Men’s Retreat. It is an unspoken epidemic – with unfathomable repercussions – that so many men do not trust other men. For when a man cannot trust other men, it may reflect in the struggle to fully trust … Read more

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