Why Power Struggles Are Vital For A Healthy Relationship

First, I’ve got huuuuuuge news:

My wife (Silvy Khoucasian) and I just signed with a literary agent to write a book together.

Yeah.

We’re super pumped.

While not a literal baby (if you’ve been following my work a while you might have thought/wished that the big news), but it is .. *ahem … a literary baby … (I’m so sorry) … that we get to create together.

Anyway, whatever it is, it’s totally a BFD (just look it up).

We almost forgot to celebrate given it happened in the midst of the thousand moving parts that is our life this week. But we just had our kickoff meeting with our agent this week, and now it feels real.

So I couldn’t wait to share this exciting news with you (if you wanna hit me back, reply, send me some celebration emojis, cute GIFs of dogs in reading glasses with books, I’d totally love it!)

What will it be about, you ask?

Well, this past April, Silvy and I did our first duo-keynote presentation at the prestigious “In Bloom Summit” in Vancouver (where I low-key stalked fellow presenter, Dr. John Gottman, in the hotel exercise room), and the producers gave me permission to share the recording of that talk with you.

While it isn’t exactly the subject of our book, that talk did plant the seeds for it, and now you can watch it on Youtube.

It took almost a decade for Silvy and I to (finally!) create enough trust & safety with each other to do something like this. I’m really proud of us. We created a presentation that is at moments hilarious, confronting, inspiring, and insightful, and deeply heartfelt all the way through.

You get a sneak preview into the innovative relational work Silvy and I intend to champion in coming years; see how we dance together on stage; and hear how we help couples embrace their differences to create deeper connection.

A few highlights:

• Why “power struggles” are actually vital for a healthy love.
• Were you raised for “autonomy” or “loyalty”?
• The role of grief and acceptance in relationships.
• The importance of shared purpose & clear agreements.

*Click here to watch on youtube