"I am so thankful for this program. I'm finding myself loving and appreciating Dan more than ever."
Mary & Daniel C
"Just a few short weeks and I already see massive change. I’m amazed at how much content I’m getting. It’s beautiful!"
"Working with two of the best couples therapists currently available on planet earth … has led to the best results."
Raise your hand if you're tired of ...
- Futile communication that gets you nowhere
- Persistent disappointment or resentment
- Chronic disconnection (struggling to create & maintain real connection with each other)
- Trust issues that keep getting in the way
- Boundary violations that keep happening
- Losing your authentic self in the relationship
- Arguments & disagreements that go unresolved ... seemingly forever!
HAND UP? ... You Are So Not Alone!
I used to totally suck at love.
From the French woman I once met, married AND divorced all in less than 10 months, to the woman I lived with who insisted I was the “worst boyfriend ever.”
Yeah, I was awful at relationships.
But only because no one ever showed me how to do love better.
I was just winging it for 20 years. Which showed me firsthand how two people – despite great intentions – can easily make a tragic mess of love.
At age 36, I suffered yet another agonizing breakup. That's when I asked myself:
What am I missing that someone really should have frickin' taught me long ago!?”
I finally decided to answer that question. I traveled all over the world, from New York to Australia, studying with and learning from world-renowned teachers in love, sex, intimacy, and spirituality – David Deida, Michaela Boehm, Byron Katie, Tony Robbins, Alison Armstrong, and so many others.
What I learned changed everything for me.
In 2013, filled with life-changing insights and practices, I started coaching individuals. In 2014, I started coaching couples.
In 2015, my relationship blogs went viral to over 30 million readers around the globe.
I've since helped thousands of people like you on their own journeys to creating harmonious, connected, satisfying relationships.
A few years ago I met Silvy Khoucasian, a Marriage & Family Therapist, who would become my fiancé – and my greatest teacher. Silvy and I started early working with our own coaches and therapists, and we continue to this day, because we're committed to ensuring our love THRIVES.
You can have a love that thrives, too.
I know ... because I once totally sucked at love.
Yet today I'm living my dream with an exquisite woman (and a great dog) and coaching people just like you towards creating the relationship of their dreams, too.
Silvy and I partnered to create this program to help you learn and practice what we teach our private clients, and use to create our own exquisite relationship.
BUT BEWARE ... This journey is not for the timid of heart.
It takes courage to face your own stuff and do the inner work necessary to break through your internal barriers to love.
However, if you're willing to get a little uncomfortable, to see with fresh eyes, and practice the skills we'll give you, you absolutely can have what you desire, too.
Because you don't just deserve a love that thrives ... you were born for it.
THE 90-DAY JOURNEY
How it Works
Six Core Tools & Insight Video Modules
Each module gives you eye-opening (heart-opening) insights and practical tips, tools, techniques for creating extraordinary relationships.
THE 90-DAY JOURNEY: You have immediate access to all 6 modules, so you can go at your own pace ... even binge watch in one night like a great Netflix series if you like! However, we recommend doing one module every two weeks, to (a) give you time to process and absorb the insights and (b) actually practice the tools and techniques we give you to start shifting your conflicts to connections (with your intimate partner, or even with friends, family, kids, etc.).
*See below for specific details about each module.
The (Thrilling) Dance of Masculine & Feminine Intimacy
Learn how to:
- Interpret your partner's behavior so they finally make sense!
- Use your primal differences to fuel passion, not suffering
- Attract & inspire each other without demand or manipulation
The 3 Stages of Love (From Adversaries to True Partners)
Learn how to:
- Be the best partner you can without losing yourself
- Stop being "needy" (so the relationship can breathe!)
- Create healthy boundaries with love and respect
Practical Communication (That Actually Works)
Learn how to:
- Avoid relationship breakdown
- Address your partner's top complaints without losing yourself
- Use specific phrases and words that calm rather than escalate
The Joys of Attachment (Shifting Anxiety and Avoidance)
Learn how to:
- Effectively ask for what you want from your partner
- Get your needs met without shame
- Dramatically improve your daily interactions
Mastering The Art of (Everyday) Connection
Learn how to:
- Consistently create connection together everyday
- Consistently bring the BEST OF YOU to the relationship
- Shift conflict in mere minutes ... so fights stop lasting forever!
Emotional Presence & Heart-Open Intimacy
Learn how to:
- Be (and stay) emotionally present with each other
- Express feelings in ways your partner can actually hear
- Feel what your partner (and you) really need during a conflict
PLUS, GET MEMBER ACCESS TO ...
2X/MONTH, LIVE Q&A GROUP COACHING WITH BRYAN & SILVY
- Work directly with Bryan & Silvy to deepen what you're learning in the modules
- Get personal COACHING from Bryan & Silvy around your specific challenges
- Get empowering answers to your difficult questions
- Learn from others getting coached around their unique challenges, too
SCHEDULE: Approximately every 2 weeks, alternating between 10AM & 6PM U.S. Pacific Time. Can't attend live? Submit questions before to get answers in the replay.
EXCLUSIVE ACCESS, "LOVE MASTERY" UNIVERSITY & COMMUNITY
- BONUS WEBINAR: The 3 Essential Boundaries That Make Or Break Relationships
- BONUS WEBINAR: The 3 Biggest Mistakes Women Make With Men (That Make Love Painful)
- BONUS WEBINAR: The 3 Biggest Mistakes Men Make With Women (That Make Love Painful)
- BONUS: "The Boundaries Program: Relationships Suck Without Boundaries!"
- Join the "Love Magic" online community
- Get feedback, learn from, celebrate with and be inspired by others going through similar challenges and awakenings as yours.
SAY "HI" TO YOUR MENTORS
~ Meet Silvy & Bryan ~
A former US Air Force Captain, Bryan has triumphed through multiple dark nights of the soul after hurling himself into the transformational fires of intimate relationship over and over again. With a Masters Degree in Human Relations, he now coaches men and women to creating thriving lives and relationships, and his blogs, videos, online courses, and books have been experienced by over 30 million people in every country in the world (except North Korea apparently).
Silvy has had a long-running love affair with helping struggling couples create real connection. She has a Master’s Degree in Psychology (Marriage & Family Therapy). Growing up in the USA as a young immigrant from the Middle East, Silvy has always been fascinated by the critical role family cultures play in intimate relationships. She also has a background in theatrical arts, which allows her to use art & drama therapy in helping clients reclaim lost or suppressed parts of themselves.
What Participants Are Saying ...
"We loved the first module and could relate to so much, including the Q&A’s at the end. You validated so much of what we have managed to work out about our patterns & behaviors so far."
Dave & Tammie
“I am so thankful for this program. I'm finding myself loving and appreciating Dan more than ever. I'm even more appreciative of boundaries and all the amazing perspectives I’ve gained."
Mary & Daniel C
"Just a few short weeks and I already see massive change. I have really started learning the art of boundaries. I’m amazed at how much content I’m getting. It’s beautiful!”
“Working with two of the best couples therapists currently available on planet earth … has lead to the best results. The astounding amounts of material Bryan & Silvy offer in their program is way more than enough to help any couple/individual dedicated to improving themselves and their relationships not only with their partner, but children, themselves, and co-workers, too.
"We've learned already some key things that have kept us in there with each other, and we haven't even gone through all the modules yet. Just to understand the differences between the core desires of the masculine and the feminine has illuminated so much for us. Thank you, Bryan and Silvy!"
Diana & Matthew
What should this cost?
$1,800 = Six Insight & Practices Video Modules
$1,800 = 3 Months (6 Sessions), Live Coaching with Bryan/Silvy
$500 = Annual Pass to "Love Magic" Community
$147 = "Boundaries: Relationships Suck Without 'Em!" Audio Program
$27 = Your Relationship Vision Worksheet
TOTAL VALUE ... $4,274
6 CORE MODULES + LIVE Q&A COACHING
- 6 Core Insight Video Modules ($1800)
- 3 Months Live Q&A Group Coaching (6 Live Sessions) ($1800)
- Your "Relationship Vision" Worksheet ($27)
- BONUS: "The Boundaries Program: Relationships Suck Without Boundaries!" ($147)
PAYMENT PLAN OPTION
Enroll before the next Live Q&A Coaching Session begins in ...
No-RISK ... Money Back Guarantee
You've got 14 days after you buy to decide if this is for you. If you realize you don't need or want 90-days of couples coaching, or you see what's on offer here and just don't like it, for any reason, email us at firstname.lastname@example.org within 14 days of your purchase and we'll give you a 100% refund.
P.S. You keep FREE ACCESS to my "Love Magic" Online Community : )
That's up to you. But even just 3 hours a month can profoundly shift your experience of love and intimacy profoundly, if you're willing to take action on what you learn in those 3 hours.
No coach, therapist, program, etc., can guarantee results.
Anyone who guarantees their stuff will "work" whether or not you do the work, is just afraid and thinks they need your money.
However, if you act on even 5% of what we offer you in this program, your experience of relationship will NEVER be the same.
How do we know?
Because people write to us everyday to share how something offered here – even just one little insight – changed their lives, their relationships, for the massive better.
The same is true for our relationship together, because everything we share in this program is what we use with each other to stay connected and "in love."
We are confident that can happen for you, too, if you're willing to do the work we offer here.
Ok ... super common question.
You want to do it. You know this will help ... but your partner ain't on board.
1 ... don't try to force or guilt your partner into it. That never goes well.
2 ... be thoughtful about how you can frame your interest in doing this with your partner.
** NOTE: We teach FRAMING in this program, because properly FRAMING communication - whether you're upset or want something – can make all the difference in whether your partner hears you.
This FAQ is a taste of how framing can help you ...
So, before even bringing it up, praise them or the relationship FIRST: Acknowledge something good about your experience, about them, what they're contributing to your life, etc.
Don't lie or blow stanky moonshine up their ass to manipulate them – they'll smell it coming and resist you even more.
Instead, genuinely focus on what you're grateful about your partner or the relationship – what they're contributing to your life, how they DO show up that you appreciate, etc. – and then speak to YOUR GRATITUDE with your partner with genuine sincerity.
If you just can't find any gratitude for your partner or the relationship, this program won't likely help you, anyway.
3 ... After you've acknowledged them, now you can speak to your desire to make the relationship better ... because what the heck else are you two together for if not to create something juicy and exquisite!?
That's a simple formula you can work with. It may not bring the most stubborn partner around initially.
But in the end, if you're simply honest about why you want to do this program WHILE ALSO honoring your partner for who they are and what they bring to your life today, they'll likely want to go on this journey with you.
Because they'll feel accepted, respected, cherished, and safe with you, and will likely want to give you the same in return.
If they still don't, well, so much of what I teach is taking responsibility for your life, your choices. In this case, focus on how you can grow and learn to make things better for yourself. As you do, your partner will either have to figure out how to meet you in a new place ... or they'll lose you.
I know from personal experience when both partners take full responsibility for creating a beautiful relationship together ... it's magic.
And anything less is just slow torture.
I trust that's helpful.
Most every person has some past trauma – no matter how small – that affects their adult relationships.
When Bryan was 4, at daycare, his dad scooped up another little boy into his arms while enthusiastically proclaiming, "Son!" ... a flash moment that would negatively affect Bryan's self-esteem for decades!
So no relationship is without trauma, and this program can help you.
Having said that, it's important to acknowledge this program is NOT a substitute for Therapy. This can be a great complement to therapy – Silvy is a therapist working towards full licensure – but if you have some painful past trauma that keeps getting in the way of your relationship, whether recent or long ago, we encourage you to work with a professional therapist who can see you consistently to help you heal that trauma.
We especially recommend trauma specialists who offer some form of "Somatic Experiencing," a brilliant healing modality for people with trauma stuck in the body (read the book, "Waking The Tiger").
If there is ONGOING PHYSICAL ABUSE in your relationship, this may not be the right experience for you.
In that case, we absolutely implore you to seek out a therapist who can help you make sense of what's happening and what to do about it.
There's no shame in getting the support of a therapist.
Silvy and I both work with therapists, as well as our own coaches.
All Q&A / Coaching Sessions are live throughout your entire program.
You can ask Bryan and/or Silvy questions during these sessions no matter when you sign up.
The 6 core video modules were recorded with a live audience in the Spring 2018.
That's no problem.
All live videos will be "webinar" format ... which means no one can see you.
If you are ever asked for a name when you sign in, you can just use a code name (how fun!).
However, to ensure only authorized members are in the live sessions, if we don't recognize your login we may ask you to immediately email email@example.com to verify your identity.
I'm committed to protecting the integrity of the group and ensuring all members have their rights to privacy respected.
Actually I, Bryan, am leading most of this program.
Silvy is more like a featured guest star.
She leads 2 of the 6 video modules, and is on many of the Q&A calls, though not all (sometimes she'll be the only one on those calls, without Bryan).
Here's a little more info into Bryan's background.
- Masters Degree, Human Relations, The University of Oklahoma
- Human Interaction Laboratories training, NTL Institute
- Extensive Air Force training in Human Behavior Dynamics (I’m a former Captain)
- UCLA Mindful Awareness Practices Course Completion
- Byron Katie's School for The Work (psychology training) Certificate Program
- Landmark Forum with Advanced Training
- Tai Sophia Healing Arts Institute, Applied Healing Arts Certificate Program
- Tony Robbins Life Mastery Programs and Personal Coaching Programs
- Mindvalley EverCoach Coach Training
... and so many more trainings and programs I can't even remember!
However, my highest credential in this work is that I sucked at intimate relationships for 20+ years!
What I have learned has worked wonders for me with Silvy ... and also for the thousands of people and couples I've coached and trained since 2013.
I totally understand why you want reassurance.
This program offers you insights, tools, practices, skills we are 100% certain can work for you ...if you take action and do something with all that.
We're giving you the best of what we teach our coaching clients – and use in our own relationship with each other – to create a harmonious, loving, connected intimacy that works for both partners.
Nonetheless, if you decide within 14 days you just can't (or don't want to) commit to 90 days of empowering couples coaching with us, just email us @ firstname.lastname@example.org and we'll give you 100% refund.
note: This guarantee is void after completing your private session with Bryan.