Sexuality

7 Reasons All Men Should Be Feminists

“It works well to think your adversary is evil. … Then you can hate your enemy and hate can fuel many confrontations. But in our hearts, [women] naturally love men. Just as men naturally love women.” ~ Alison Armstrong ♦◊♦ Being a “Feminist” doesn’t mean setting women on pedestals and tossing men under buses. It

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What makes a Woman Thrive?

This past summer, I worked with 80 women as my coaching clients. We shared deep, intimate conversations around their day-to-day challenges, their intimate struggles with men (and in some cases, women), their frustrations in the workplace, and more … and then we dove into what their hearts profoundly yearned for. I worked with women who

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It’s Healthy For Men To Question Our Sexuality

♦◊♦ When I was 22 and in the US Air Force, I spent 4 months wondering if I was gay. I was stationed in Oklahoma City, deeply unhappy, certain I was supposed to be doing something on the planet far more inspired and evolutionary than learning about avionics systems on 50-year old KC-135 aircraft. Although

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6 Things an Evolved Man Wants From a Woman

♦◊♦ Note: As my views on “SURRENDER” continue evolving, I edit this blog to reflect that. Some of the angry comments below reflect an admittedly “less evolved” view of surrender (last edit: 12/5/15). ♦◊♦ I hear women these days talk about wanting an evolved, conscious man. I’ve decided that mostly means they want to be with

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The One Thing Women Are Most Afraid of in Men (It’s Not Aggression)

♦◊♦ I used to think women were only afraid of aggression in men, in all its forms: anger, rage, physical violence, verbal abuse, sexual aggression, rape. I grew up with all kinds of conflicting social messages about the wrongs (and subtle rights) of violence against women. With three sisters and two mothers (married to my

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6 Reasons Why Men Must Give Up Pornography

Note: I do not promote sexual shame or banning porn. This article simply invites men to explore how online pornography can affect the experience and expression of our sexuality. ♦◊♦ In my boyhood teenage days of yore, using pornography required patience, even imagination. One of my early adventures with porn occurred on weekday afternoons when I got

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Men Aren't Supposed to Understand Women

♦◊♦ I’ve finally realized that I’m not supposed to understand my woman. I am only supposed to love her in all her wild mystery. I’m a “core masculine” man. I wouldn’t want to completely understand a woman, anyway. Like most men, once I understand or completely figure something out – or even think I have –

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A Man's Evolution in Intimacy with Women

♦◊♦ I used to just want a woman’s sexy body. Later I wanted her intelligent mind, too. Now, as the mature masculine man in me awakens, there’s something far more precious than her body or even her mind that I covet: her devotional heart. I’ll explain. Here’s my evolution in intimacy with women: As a

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