Conscious Relationships 3

You Do Not Serve Anyone By Shrinking Yourself For Love

June 25, 2020April 3, 2017

Woman, I know you have been hearing for a lifetime that you’re too much, too needy, too loud, too opinionated, too demanding, too happy, too sad, too large, too emotional, too expressive, too whatever. So you learned to shrink yourself in countless ways.

The Truth is Simple (Only Your Cover-ups Are Complicated)

August 25, 2020March 30, 2017

“If I tell you the real truth about me, you won’t love me.” That single thought has driven me to madness for most of my life. It’s like having a nasty little thought-vampire living in my head with fangs like dagger straws sucking out the oxygen-rich blood that would otherwise fuel clarity in my …

Tired Of Your Partner Not ‘Enthusiastically Choosing’ You?

January 20, 2019October 13, 2016

♦◊♦ Are you fed up with NOT being enthusiastically chosen every day in your intimate relationship? Since “Choose Her Every Day (or Leave Her)” went viral in 2015, I’ve heard from countless disheartened women (and men) all over the world about their painful experiences with intimate partners who aren’t very enthusiastic about “doing relationship” with them. I was surprised to

Save Your Relationship by Embracing Feelings

June 25, 2020June 27, 2016

♦◊♦ “I care about your feelings.” My partner once texted me those words shortly after an argument. When I saw her text, my first thought was … “Why? … I don’t even care about my feelings. … Anyway, everything is fine, I’ll be fine.” As I watched myself dismiss my own feelings (I wasn’t really

Sometimes The Best Gift Is Leaving Your Partner

October 9, 2018June 2, 2016

♦◊♦ Throughout my adult life, no woman ever broke up with me that I didn’t want or even subtly encourage to leave. Nope. I was the one who ended intimate relationships. I see now I was also the one who never fully showed up for those relationships. But I only finally realized this after a woman

Thank You For Leaving Me

May 16, 2024April 27, 2016

♦◊♦ A few weeks ago I awoke from a morning dream in which my girlfriend broke up with me. Later that day, she broke up with me. We were moving through some rough weather at our 6-month mark; nothing I thought catastrophic. I was sure we’d get thru. Then she ended it. I was devastated. I did not

Stop This Tragic Cycle In Your Relationship

June 25, 2020April 19, 2016

♦◊♦ (note: this happens in all relationships, straight or otherwise. It’s actually a masculine-feminine dynamic, not a man-woman dynamic.) I’ve discovered a tragic cycle in intimacy: WOMAN routinely lets man know he’s “not enough” (doesn’t feel enough; not emotional enough; not expressive enough; often combined with he can’t get it/do it right). Having no idea how to please her,

Find a Great Relationship (by Committing to Being Single)

October 9, 2018March 31, 2016

♦◊♦ UPDATE: Just 4 months after I originally wrote this, I met the most exquisite woman I’ve been waiting a lifetime for. We’re engaged now … so take this to heart! : ) ♦◊♦ Recently, I wrote this popular post on Facebook: I’m single. Committed single. Until life drops an exquisite woman onto my path with whom

3 Categories of Male Sexual Disorientation

August 23, 2019January 11, 2016

♦◊♦ Most men have no idea of the true power of sex. Most of us use orgasm as a means to merely release tension in the body, to get out of our heads for a few minutes and relax our restless brains. We too often use women, porn, or other men, to distract ourselves from

Does Your Partner Feel Safe With You?

June 25, 2020November 5, 2015

Your partner is always telling you either …

“I feel safe with you” … or

“I do not feel safe with you.“

Learning to hear what they’re really saying can change everything for both of you!